Summary of "83% Of Women Are Using Intimacy And Oxytocin Bonding Wrong"

Oxytocin: Known as the "love hormone," crucial for female bonding during intimacy (released through foreplay, affection, orgasm).
Men’s Oxytocin: Plays a different role, primarily involved in fluid release during climax, not deep bonding.
Dopamine in Men: Men experience a Dopamine rush during orgasm, similar to enjoying a pleasurable activity (e.g., eating a favorite food), which doesn’t guarantee emotional attachment.
Vasopressin: The key hormone for male bonding, released during stress and shared problem-solving, creating deep emotional attachment and protective instincts.

Women often rely solely on Oxytocin-related bonding (affection, cuddling, orgasms) which works for women but not men.
Men’s bonding requires Vasopressin activation through shared goals, challenges, and problem-solving.
Passive sexual behavior from women leads men to experience sex as a Dopamine "hamburger effect" — pleasurable but not bonding.
Men often want to bond after sex but don’t get the right hormonal triggers due to lack of physical engagement or emotional connection.

Set shared sexual goals to engage his Vasopressin system.
Be open about your sexual needs; don’t be passive or just “pleasing.”
Use the “Help me get there” protocol:
- Verbally guide him on what helps your arousal and orgasm.
- Give feedback like “more kisses,” “to the left,” or “faster” to activate his problem-solving brain.
- Celebrate achievements together (“high five” after orgasm) to cement bonding.
Men generally care about their partner’s pleasure; clear communication enhances bonding.

Avoid passivity; actively use your whole body to touch and engage him during sex.
Stimulate his entire body, not just genital contact:
- Use hands to touch his face, scalp, back, shoulders.
- Rub calves and thighs against his body to release Oxytocin.
- Scratch or gently grip areas he enjoys.
This full-body contact floods both partners with Oxytocin, increasing bonding.
Active physical engagement differentiates you from others and deepens connection.
Avoid being a passive “sex doll”; men crave active physical interaction even if they don’t voice it.

After sex, pull him close to your chest to stimulate Oxytocin release through warmth and physical closeness.
This mimics the biological bonding from breastfeeding, triggering deep comfort and attachment.
Avoid letting him roll away or leave immediately; instead, create relaxed physical closeness.
This “aftercare” helps men bond emotionally and want to stay connected.
The warmth and pheromones increase mutual Oxytocin, making him want to stay “home” with you, not just visit like a “hamburger joint.”

Men bond through shared challenges and goal achievement; sex should include active participation and mutual pleasure.
Women often fail to bond men because they are too accommodating and don’t ask for what they want.
Bonding requires trust, safety, and communication; these techniques are best with a committed, trusted partner.
Great sex is not just about pleasure but about creating an unbreakable emotional bond.
Men who care about you will want to help you reach orgasm and enjoy the shared experience.
Avoid faking orgasms; honesty creates better bonding.
Use simple verbal cues during sex to guide and engage him.
Physical touch beyond intercourse is crucial for Oxytocin bonding.
After sex, use closeness and warmth to maintain bonding and prevent “ghosting” or emotional withdrawal.

Communicate your sexual needs openly; don’t be passive.
Use verbal feedback to guide him during sex (“Help me get there”).
Engage physically with your whole body (the “drunk octopus” method).
After sex, pull him close to your chest to trigger Oxytocin bonding.
Set shared sexual goals and celebrate achievements together.
Build trust and safety to enable vulnerability and bonding.
Avoid faking orgasms; honesty strengthens connection.
Understand men bond differently—activate Vasopressin first, then Oxytocin.
Recognize that sex can be a unitive experience that deepens love, not just pleasure.