Summary of 7 Steps to Start a Long Distance Relationship | Make a Long Distance Relationship Work
Key Wellness, Self-Care, and Productivity Tips for Making a long-distance relationship Work
Common Mistakes to Avoid:
- Over-texting and over-talking: Constant texting or phone calls kill attraction and make you appear desperate. texting should maintain interest, not fully build the relationship.
- Staying at her place on visits: Staying with her too soon can make you seem like a burden and reduce attraction.
- Being unprepared to lead: Not planning activities or dates in her city puts her in the masculine role, killing chemistry.
- Mentioning "long-distance relationship" too early: Avoid discussing the relationship status or future too soon to keep things light and natural.
7-Step System to Start and Build a long-distance relationship
- High Quality, Low Quantity Communication
- Invent a Reason to Visit Her City
- Create a plausible, non-pressuring reason for your trip (business meeting, sports event, job interview).
- This reduces pressure on her and increases your perceived value.
- Be creative if no obvious reason exists.
- Scout Her City in Advance
- Research restaurants, bars, activities, and neighborhoods online.
- Call venues to gather details and make reservations.
- Prepare a plan and backup options to lead confidently.
- Prepare witty banter and flirtatious comments related to planned activities.
- Skip the First Day
- Arrive a day early and explore the city alone.
- This makes your knowledge of the city seem natural and not dependent on her.
- It shows you have your own life and reduces pressure on her.
- Lead Her in Her Own Town
- Take control of dates and activities.
- Show confidence and familiarity with the area.
- Avoid being a clueless tourist or relying on her to plan.
- Get Sexual
- Aim to have physical intimacy on the trip to build investment and deepen connection.
- Create a romantic atmosphere (dim lighting, physical touch).
- Be respectful and don’t pressure; let things flow naturally.
- Physical intimacy fuels attraction and relationship longevity.
- Optimize Your Itinerary
- Don’t spend every moment together; plan activities or excuses to leave.
- Give her time to miss you and build anticipation.
- Avoid daytime hangouts like lunch dates that don’t foster attraction.
- Adapt based on how the trip is going and her interest level.
Bonus Steps for Maintaining the Relationship
- Creative Communication Between Visits
- Keep communication fun and engaging with games, jokes, and playful banter.
- Use social media to subtly remind her of your exciting life.
- Create unique experiences via text or calls (e.g., trivia games, playful contests).
- Avoid boring daily check-ins; instead, create moments that make her look forward to talking to you.
- Have Her Visit You
- After a couple of visits, invite her to your city.
- This tests her investment and commitment.
- Show her your life and local spots with fun, witty stories.
- Gauge her interest by how willing and excited she is to visit.
Additional Coaching Insights
- Coaching includes personalized scripts for texting and conversations.
- Helps clients prepare for dates with tailored activity and banter suggestions.
- Focuses on raising attraction, maintaining intrigue, and leading confidently.
- Emphasizes mindset shifts around masculinity, confidence, and pacing the relationship.
Presenters / Sources:
- Bobby Rio – Host and dating coach
- Calvin Jameson – dating coach specializing in long-distance relationship strategies
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