Summary of PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact TODAY! | The Mel Robbins Podcast

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel Robbins and charisma expert Vanessa Van Edwards discuss the concept of "the it factor," which is closely tied to charisma. They explore how charisma can be learned and its significant impact on influence, income, and interpersonal relationships. Here are the key strategies and techniques shared throughout the episode:

Key Wellness Strategies and self-care Techniques

Understanding charisma: charisma is a skill that can be developed, not an innate trait. It involves signaling warmth and competence to others.
Self-Reflection: Take a diagnostic test to assess your charisma levels and how others perceive you. Use the results for personal growth.
Awareness of Body Language: Record yourself during meetings to analyze your body language and vocal tones, helping you identify areas for improvement.

Productivity Tips

First Impressions Matter: In the first 10 seconds of any interaction, show your hands and maintain appropriate distance from the camera to enhance warmth and engagement.
Vocal Power: Avoid "up talk" (ending statements with a rising intonation) to project confidence. Instead, speak on the out-breath to convey authority.
Use of Gestures: Incorporate purposeful hand gestures to emphasize points and make your communication more engaging.

charisma Cues

Warmth Signals:
- Use slow triple nods to encourage others to share more.
- Tilt your head slightly to show you are listening and engaged.
- Smile genuinely, ensuring it reaches your eyes to convey authenticity.
Competence Signals:
- Maintain eye contact to build trust and connection.
- Use clear, confident vocal tones without unnecessary pauses or filler words.
- Employ explanatory gestures to reinforce your verbal messages.

Email and communication strategies

Warm Words: Use warm and achievement-oriented language in emails to foster collaboration and positive responses.
Sign-off Wisely: Avoid generic sign-offs like "best." Instead, use phrases that reflect warmth and connection, such as "to your success."

Handling Disrespect

Gift Warmth and Competence: When faced with disrespect, maintain your composure by continuing to signal warmth and competence, encouraging a more positive interaction.
Direct Communication: If disrespect persists, directly address the behavior by expressing your observations and feelings, which may prompt a more constructive dialogue.

Final Thoughts

Everyone has the potential to develop their charisma and improve their influence by being intentional with their social signals. Understanding how to communicate effectively can lead to better relationships and increased success in various aspects of life.

Presenters/Sources

Mel Robbins (Host)
Vanessa Van Edwards (Guest, charisma and Body Language Expert, Author of "Captivate" and "Cues")

Notable Quotes

— 07:22 — « Charisma is like a lubricant; it makes our relationships, our conversations, our communication smoother. »

— 07:24 — « Charisma is a social lubricant. »

— 18:12 — « Your need to be right is getting in the way of your need to be liked. »

— 19:12 — « Charisma impacts the three I's: influence, impact, and income. »

— 24:44 — « You are unintentionally sending signals and cues to people. »