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Key Wellness Strategies, Self-Care Techniques, and Productivity Tips from the Video

Recognize and Stop “Hanging Out in Someone Else’s Head”

Avoid overthinking how others might react or what they think about your boundaries or feelings. This habit leads to loss of self, boundaries, and values. Instead, focus on your own desires and needs.

Connect with Your Own Boundaries and Desires

Ask yourself: “What would I like?” before communicating.
Clearly express what you don’t like, how it makes you feel, and what you need from the other person.
Use calm, respectful language to maintain respect for both yourself and the other person.

Practice Open and Honest Communication

Share feelings even if unsure about the other person’s reaction.
True intimacy arises when you can discuss difficult or uncertain topics openly.
Avoid silence or passive acceptance of disrespect; silence is often interpreted as consent.

Reality Check Technique

When worried about how others perceive you, ask a trusted friend or colleague for a “reality check” to gain perspective and reduce anxiety.
This helps break the cycle of overthinking and self-doubt.

Use the Pygmalion-Rozental Effect Positively

Focus on and acknowledge positive behaviors in others to encourage their growth.
Avoid negative labeling; instead, highlight specific positive actions to foster better outcomes.

Setting Boundaries as a Skill

Boundaries are about specifying what is acceptable and what is not, and communicating this clearly.
Observe how others react to your boundaries to decide whether to continue or end relationships.
Accept that some people may not respect boundaries, and prepare mentally for potential rejection or conflict.

Dealing with Fear of Rejection

Fear of rejection is normal; what matters is how you respond to it.
Choose to express yourself despite fear rather than remaining silent and losing your voice.

Negotiation and Importance Reduction Technique

Before difficult conversations or negotiations, imagine three scenarios:

Everything goes as you want.
Everything goes better than expected.
Nothing works out.

Emotionally and rationally accept all outcomes to reduce the importance of the situation and increase flexibility.

Using Correspondence for Difficult Conversations

If face-to-face communication feels too hard, start by expressing boundaries and feelings through written messages. This allows time to formulate thoughts and observe reactions calmly.

Observer Position in Conflict

After expressing boundaries and feelings, take a step back and observe the other person’s response without immediate reaction. Decide based on their behavior whether to continue or leave the relationship.

Presenters / Sources

Katya (21-year-old participant sharing her experiences)
Nastya (host/moderator)
Unnamed communication coach/facilitator leading the discussion and exercises
Reference to psychological concepts: Pygmalion-Rozental effect (teacher expectation studies)