Summary of "Spiega Meno: perché spiegare tutto peggiora la tua comunicazione con le altre persone"

Key Wellness and Communication Strategies from the Video

Avoid Over-Explaining Excessive explanation, especially in sensitive or crucial conversations, tends to worsen communication by making the other person defensive or disengaged.
Distinguish Explanation from Dialogue Trying to explain more often means trying to prove yourself right rather than engaging in true dialogue or mutual understanding.
Beware of Cognitive Load Providing too much information at once increases cognitive load, leading to confusion, annoyance, or rejection. The brain resists processing excessive detail, especially in emotional contexts.
Use Clear, Concise Communication Focus on sharing a few clear, relevant points rather than overwhelming your interlocutor with all details.
Understand Shared Semantic Space Effective communication depends on how much common ground or shared understanding you have with the other person. Tailor your explanations based on what the other person already knows.
Ask Questions Instead of Explaining More Before adding more explanation, ask if the other person understands or how they see the issue. This invites participation and reduces defensiveness.
Take Responsibility for Clarity Phrase feedback questions from your perspective (e.g., “Have I explained myself well?”) rather than putting the onus on the listener (“Do you understand me?”).
Express Intentions Clearly Make your intentions transparent, e.g., “I want to understand your point of view,” rather than trying to convince or win the argument.
Practice Empathy Try to get into the other person’s mindset to gauge if they are following or if more explanation is needed.
Pause and Reflect When feeling the urge to explain more, stop and ask yourself if you are clarifying or just trying to be right. If the latter, pause, breathe, and consider asking a question instead.
Effective Communication Is About Subtraction Often, better communication comes from saying less and listening more rather than adding more words.