Summary of "La Gran Estafa De Las Energías Femeninas Y Masculinas"

Overview

Omar Rueda critiques the popular “feminine vs. masculine energy” narrative as a marketable myth that individualizes structural problems, blames people for social issues, and deepens division rather than healing relationships. He argues that qualities often labeled “feminine” or “masculine” — rest, tenderness, direction, boundaries, etc. — exist in everyone and should be treated as practical skills, not rigid gender rules. Real change, he says, requires collective and structural solutions (economic security, time, care systems, housing, mental health), alongside emotional education and shared responsibility.

Critique of the narrative

The “feminine vs. masculine energy” framing:
- Individualizes systemic problems and encourages self-blame.
- Can be marketed as quick-fix consumer solutions (retreats, apps, one-off rituals).
- Tends to assign moral or developmental value to people based on perceived imbalance, increasing division rather than fostering mutual care.
Rueda’s alternative framing:
- The capacities associated with “feminine” and “masculine” are present in everyone.
- These capacities should be used instrumentally — as skills and practices — rather than as gendered prescriptions.
- Structural change (policy, material supports) is necessary and cannot be replaced by only “inner work.”

“Before accepting self-blame, check whether a given explanation distracts from structural causes (wages, debt, housing, work hours).”

Key wellness strategies, self-care techniques, and productivity tips

Prioritize rest and create explicit spaces of non-productivity
- Protect downtime and treat rest as necessary care, not laziness.
Cultivate tenderness and slowing practices
- Gentle self-care, slowing your pace, and making time for small nourishing practices (poetry, creativity, quiet).
Practice emotional education and mutual support
- Learn emotional literacy, communicate needs clearly, and build team-based approaches in relationships and households.
Share responsibilities and co-create practical structures
- Distribute reproductive, productive, and emotional labor; make concrete plans for mutual availability and support.
Build healthy boundaries and responsible presence
- Develop clear limits, dependable commitments, and ethical direction in relationships and work.
Center the body and basic needs
- Attend to bodily health, healthcare access, sleep, movement, nutrition, and safety; treat the body as political territory requiring material care.
Resist individualizing “fix-yourself” quick fixes
- Question commercialized healing models that frame social problems as personal failures.
Ask who benefits from narratives of incompletion
- Pause when told you are “incomplete” and consider whether the explanation distracts from broader structural causes.
Reclaim collective and community care
- Advocate for better social supports (decent housing, mental health services, livable wages, time policies) rather than relying only on personal change.
Use qualities as skills, not gender prescriptions
- Practice rest, support, boundaries, and direction within yourself and your relationships as needed, without assigning them by sex.

Practical reminders / takeaways

Don’t blame yourself for systemic problems; individual self-work is useful but insufficient without structural change.
When you hear “heal your feminine/masculine energy,” pause and ask who benefits from you believing you’re incomplete.
Aim for teamwork, shared responsibility, and community solutions to reduce burnout and improve wellbeing.