Summary of "Dismissive Avoidant No Contact | Stages Avoidant Ex Goes Through"
In the video titled "Dismissive Avoidant No Contact | Stages Avoidant Ex Goes Through," personal and relationship coach Katya Morozova discusses the emotional stages that a dismissive avoidant individual may experience during a no-contact period after a breakup. The stages vary depending on the level of investment in the relationship and the circumstances surrounding the breakup.
Key Stages Discussed:
- Relief and Confusion:
- The avoidant partner may feel relief from the tension of the relationship, akin to quitting a stressful job.
- They may not immediately dwell on the breakup, focusing instead on their own life.
- Numbness or Denial:
- The avoidant may feel justified in their decision to break up, especially if they perceive the relationship as reminiscent of past traumas.
- This stage often involves a lack of self-reflection and an avoidance of deeper emotions.
- Self-Blame vs. Self-Reflection:
- The avoidant may enter a phase of self-blame, which prevents them from confronting their emotional vulnerabilities.
- Genuine self-reflection, which is essential for personal growth, may be lacking.
- Longing for Independence:
- After the initial relief, the avoidant cherishes their newfound independence, often engaging in personal pursuits or new relationships.
- This detachment can be a coping mechanism to avoid emotional intimacy.
- Nostalgia and Acknowledgment:
- Over time, the avoidant may experience moments of nostalgia, reflecting on the past relationship.
- If they have done significant inner work, they may reach a stage of genuine self-awareness and regret for their past actions.
- Testing the Waters:
- If the avoidant reaches a level of self-reflection, they may attempt to reconnect through low-commitment gestures, such as sending a short message or meme.
- This stage allows the avoidant to gauge their ex-partner's openness to communication.
Wellness Strategies and Self-Care Techniques:
- Personal Reflection: Encouraged to explore one's emotional landscape and attachment patterns for growth.
- Boundaries: Emphasized the importance of maintaining personal boundaries when engaging with an avoidant ex-partner.
- Coaching Sessions: Suggested as a resource for personalized guidance and communication strategies.
Presenters/Sources:
- Katya Morozova, Personal and Relationship Coach
Category
Wellness and Self-Improvement
