Summary of How narcissists control YOU without SAYING A WORD
Key Insights on Narcissistic Relationships:
- Loss of Freedom: Individuals in Narcissistic Relationships often lose the freedom to express themselves, maintain friendships, or engage in activities they enjoy.
- Coercive Control: Control is often implicit rather than explicit, leading individuals to feel they cannot act freely without facing negative consequences, such as conflict or emotional backlash.
- Gaslighting and Manipulation: Victims may experience ongoing Gaslighting, where their feelings and perceptions are dismissed or twisted, making them doubt their reality.
- Fear as a Mechanism: The fear of conflict, abandonment, or emotional manipulation leads individuals to avoid expressing their needs or desires.
- Trauma Bonding: The combination of love and coercion creates a trauma bond, making it difficult for individuals to leave the relationship even when they recognize the harm.
Self-Care Techniques:
- Recognizing Implicit Control: Acknowledge the subtle ways in which control is exerted, even if not verbally stated, to better understand your situation.
- Identifying Fears: Reflect on what fears prevent you from asserting your needs or desires, and consider how these fears impact your freedom.
- Seeking Support: Understand that Support can be hard to find due to the nature of Narcissistic Relationships; it's important to reach out to trusted friends or professionals who understand these dynamics.
Productivity Tips:
- Avoiding Self-Blame: Recognize that feeling responsible for the relationship's dynamics is a common reaction, but it's essential to understand that coercion and manipulation are not your fault.
- Creating Boundaries: Start to identify and establish personal Boundaries, even in small ways, to reclaim some autonomy in your life.
Presenters/Sources:
The video appears to be presented by an individual discussing Psychological Insights into Narcissistic Relationships, though specific names are not mentioned in the subtitles.
Notable Quotes
— 02:12 — « In a narcissistic relationship you lose your freedom. It really is that simple. »
— 03:10 — « When love meets coercion, that's what we call the trauma bond. »
— 16:24 — « Coercion steals freedom, but at the same time when we are told we have freedom by other people, it can feel like the ultimate gaslight. »
Category
Wellness and Self-Improvement