Summary of Going No Contact with a Dismissive Avoidant
Key Insights on Dismissive Avoidant Behavior
- Initial Relief: When no contact is established, the dismissive avoidant often feels relief, as they value their autonomy and space.
- Lack of Communication: They are unlikely to reach out after a breakup, as they prefer to distance themselves emotionally and do not typically maintain friendships post-relationship.
- All-or-Nothing Thinking: Dismissive avoidants may idealize other partners and quickly dismiss those who do not meet their unrealistic expectations.
- Delayed Grieving: They may not process the breakup immediately; it can take around 1.5 to 2 months for them to start grieving the relationship.
- Avoidance of Vulnerability: They fear vulnerability and rejection, stemming from early experiences where they felt unsupported.
Self-Care and Communication Strategies
- No Forceful Contact: It is crucial not to push for communication or reconciliation too soon, as this can lead to annoyance or anger from the dismissive avoidant.
- Light Engagement: If they do reach out, keep conversations light and avoid heavy Emotional Discussions initially.
- Trust Building: If reconciliation is desired, it will require significant trust rebuilding, as they may have felt the relationship was not fulfilling or secure.
Recommendations for Moving Forward
- Patience is Key: Allow them to process their emotions and come to terms with the breakup on their own timeline.
- Avoid Control: Do not attempt to control the situation or force them into Emotional Discussions; this can lead to further distancing.
- Consider the Relationship Dynamics: Understand that dismissive avoidants may engage in superficial relationships post-breakup, as they struggle with deeper emotional connections.
Presenters/Sources
- Coach Court (Certified Life and Relationship Coach)
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Wellness and Self-Improvement