Summary of I Set a Trap for a Narcissist… And They Walked Right Into It

In the video titled "I Set a Trap for a narcissist… And They Walked Right Into It," Rebecca Zung, a negotiation expert and attorney, shares strategies for outmaneuvering narcissists by setting traps that expose their lies and contradictions. Here are the key wellness strategies, self-care techniques, and productivity tips discussed:

Key Strategies to Trap a narcissist:

• Understand Their Weaknesses:
  • Narcissists overestimate their intelligence and often lie unnecessarily.
  • They tend to overplay their hand, believing they are winning even when they are losing.
• Create a Strategic Plan:
  • Keep your own plans and leverage hidden until the right moment.
  • Let them think they are in control and winning.
• Use Information Wisely:
  • Plant information that narcissists cannot resist using against you.
  • Ask questions that force them to expose themselves and contradict their previous statements.
• Leverage Silence:
  • Use strategic silence to make narcissists fill the void with their own lies.
  • The more they talk, the more they reveal their inconsistencies.
• Set Up Options:
  • Present them with two options:
    • Option A: Your desired settlement.
    • Option B: A situation where they will be surrounded and exposed.
• Maintain Composure:
  • Stay calm and collected throughout the process, allowing them to make the choice while you control the narrative.
• Recognize Your Power:
  • Understand that narcissists are often more afraid of you than you are of them.
  • Shift the power dynamic in your favor by demonstrating their behavior and words against them.

Additional Resources:

• Free Tools:
  • Get the "Crush My negotiation Prep Playbook" at winmynegotiation.com to start preparing for negotiations with narcissists.
• Coaching Opportunity:
  • Consider becoming a high-conflict negotiation certified coach to help others while transforming your own life.

Presenters/Sources:

• Rebecca Zung, negotiations expert, attorney, and bestselling author.

Notable Quotes

— 00:04 — « Narcissists think they're the smartest people in the room. They believe they can manipulate, lie, and twist reality without ever getting caught. »

— 06:06 — « What if your suffering could become your superpower? Imagine turning all that pain into power, not just for you, but for others too. »

— 07:50 — « Narcissists love power and control. Pretend to be naive. They're going to underestimate you. »

— 08:37 — « As their lies unravel, let them destroy themselves. »

— 10:26 — « You don't have to let this narcissist be in control. You're actually in control. »

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