Summary of 8 Stages The Dismissive Avoidants Goes Through During No Contact | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment
The video discusses the eight key stages that a dismissive avoidant often goes through during no contact post-breakup.
- It is important to go no contact for oneself, not to get something out of the other person.
- The stages include feeling relief, noticing a change in patterns, fearing missing the person, pushing feelings down, using coping mechanisms, grappling with regret, feeling hurt and disconnected, and eventually going back into a state of numbness.
- It is beneficial for dismissive avoidants to work through their feelings, do subconscious reprogramming, and have vulnerable stages to heal and create relief.
- The stages may vary based on the length of the relationship and the attachment style.
- The goal is to shorten the grieving time post-breakup and feel more whole and relieved.
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— 01:56 — « the first stage is the dismissal border tends to feel relief at first they tend to feel like okay I have space »
— 02:53 — « eventually they start to notice stage two which is this change in a pattern and they start to become curious »
— 03:32 — « the stage where the dismissal one usually pushes the feelings back down and compartmentalizes them and dismiss some points are very skilled at this »
— 05:17 — « once we see this like pushing down like okay im missing and im now pushing down and compartmentalizing »
— 06:16 — « dismissive winds tend to sort of grapple with regret a little bit and can feel sort of like you know i wish i said this or i wish i did this »
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Wellness and Self-Improvement