Summary of "The secret to self control | Jonathan Bricker | TEDxRainier"

In the TEDx talk "The secret to self control," Jonathan Bricker discusses the epidemic of unhealthy living and the importance of self-control through a concept called "willingness." He emphasizes that instead of trying to suppress cravings, individuals can achieve better self-control by accepting and observing their cravings without acting on them.

Key Wellness Strategies and Self-Care Techniques:

Understanding Cravings: Recognize that cravings are a natural part of the human experience.
willingness: Allow cravings to come and go without acting on them; this is not about willpower but about acceptance.
Awareness: Keep track of where cravings are felt in the body and their intensity over time.
mindfulness Exercise: Use phrases like "I am having the thought" to create distance from cravings and negative thoughts.
self-compassion: Offer kindness to oneself when feeling shame or judgment about unhealthy behaviors.
Dropping the Tug-of-War: Instead of fighting cravings (the "craving monster"), accept their presence and observe them, which can reduce their power over time.
Caring Choices: Approach situations (like food choices) with awareness and kindness towards oneself.

Conclusion:

Bricker concludes that the secret to self-control is to give up the struggle for control over cravings, allowing individuals to better manage their behaviors and make healthier choices.