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The secret to self control | Jonathan Bricker | TEDxRainier
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In the TEDx talk "The secret to self control," Jonathan Bricker discusses the epidemic of unhealthy living and the importance of self-control through a concept called "willingness." He emphasizes that instead of trying to suppress cravings, individuals can achieve better self-control by accepting and observing their cravings without acting on them.
Key Wellness Strategies and Self-Care Techniques:
- Understanding Cravings: Recognize that cravings are a natural part of the human experience.
- willingness: Allow cravings to come and go without acting on them; this is not about willpower but about acceptance.
- Awareness: Keep track of where cravings are felt in the body and their intensity over time.
- mindfulness Exercise: Use phrases like "I am having the thought" to create distance from cravings and negative thoughts.
- self-compassion: Offer kindness to oneself when feeling shame or judgment about unhealthy behaviors.
- Dropping the Tug-of-War: Instead of fighting cravings (the "craving monster"), accept their presence and observe them, which can reduce their power over time.
- Caring Choices: Approach situations (like food choices) with awareness and kindness towards oneself.
Conclusion:
Bricker concludes that the secret to self-control is to give up the struggle for control over cravings, allowing individuals to better manage their behaviors and make healthier choices.