Summary of I Was A People Pleaser Until I Read This...

The speaker used to be a people pleaser, always smiling, laughing at jokes, and letting others walk all over them.

They felt lonely despite being surrounded by people, leading to a sense of isolation.

After a brutal breakup, the speaker realized they needed to change and read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover.

The book describes the "nice guy syndrome" where individuals seek approval by being passive and self-sacrificing.

Step 1: Become aware of behaviors done to gain approval and avoid disapproval.
Step 2: Address shame around masculinity and cultivate healthy relationships with other men.
Step 3: Recognize toxic shame and talk about it to prevent it from growing.
Step 4: Learn to set boundaries and communicate needs effectively.
Step 5: Identify covert contracts and express needs directly to avoid resentment.

The speaker recommends the book for men looking to improve emotional health and personal growth.

The process of change is described as bittersweet, with progress being made but also regret for time wasted.

The speaker acknowledges ongoing struggles but emphasizes the importance of continuous self-improvement.

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