Summary of "THIS Mental Habit Fuels Depression - The Cognitive Distortion of Discounting the Positive"

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The video explores the cognitive distortion called “discounting the positive,” a mental habit common in depression where people ignore, dismiss, or explain away positive experiences. This makes it difficult to feel happy even when good things happen.

Understanding Discounting the Positive

It is an unconscious mental reflex or habit, often expressed as “Yes, but…” reasoning.
Examples include:
- Brushing off compliments
- Downplaying achievements
- Dismissing good events as flukes
- Attributing positive feedback to others’ pity or obligation
This distortion fuels various challenges such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, perfectionism, social anxiety, body dysmorphia, relationship problems, and phobias.
It serves as a protective mechanism to avoid disappointment or emotional pain but ultimately numbs joy and happiness.
Confirmation bias reinforces this distortion by making the brain seek evidence that supports negative beliefs.

Why We Do It

Often stems from past trauma, repeated hurt, or overwhelming obstacles.
Acts as a defense mechanism to avoid feeling vulnerable or disappointed.
People who are highly sensitive or deeply feeling may develop this as a way to cope with emotional pain.
Creates a self-fulfilling prophecy by influencing feelings, behaviors, and reality negatively.

Strategies to Overcome Discounting the Positive

Notice and Track Your Thoughts
- Use mood tracking apps (e.g., Lotus Bud) or a journal.
- Set reminders to check in with your thoughts multiple times a day.
- Practice cognitive defusion: label thoughts as just thoughts (e.g., “I’m having the thought that…”) to create distance from them.
Question Your Thoughts
- Ask yourself what you might be ignoring.
- Consider evidence that contradicts your negative beliefs.
- Reflect on whether you would say the same things to a friend.
Daily Positive Practices
- Three Good Things Exercise: Write down three good things you did each day for at least two weeks to improve mood and well-being.
- Gratitude Practice: Regularly write about things you are grateful for to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset.
Allow Positive Feedback In
- When receiving compliments, simply say “Thank you” instead of dismissing or denying them.
- Practice sitting with positive feelings, even if it feels uncomfortable.
- Pretend you are someone you care about receiving the compliment to help internalize it.
Store and Revisit Positive Feedback
- Keep physical or digital collections of compliments, thank you notes, or positive feedback.
- Review them during difficult times to reinforce a positive self-view.
Celebrate and Emphasize Success
- Share your successes with others.
- Spend time reflecting on and savoring positive experiences.
Mindfulness to Counter Negative Thoughts
- When discounting positive things (e.g., admiring flowers but thinking they’ll die soon), acknowledge the negative thought but consciously shift focus back to the positive.
- Use phrases like,
  
  “Thank you, negative mind, for trying to protect me, but I’m okay,” to gently redirect attention.

Final Encouragement

Changing this mental habit takes time and practice. Even if you don’t fully believe positive thoughts yet, writing them down and practicing these exercises helps rewire your brain. Congratulate yourself for making efforts toward change.

Presenters / Sources

The video references David Burns, a pioneer in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
The main presenter/narrator (unnamed) explains concepts, provides examples, and guides through exercises.
Vincent Van Gogh is mentioned illustratively, not as a presenter.