Summary of 3 things narcs do when you're not manipulatable anymore

The video discusses the behaviors Narcissists exhibit when they realize they can no longer manipulate someone. It outlines three main tactics Narcissists employ and offers strategies for dealing with them effectively.

Key Strategies and Techniques:

• Escalation of Tactics:
  • Narcissists may escalate their behavior to regain control, which can include:
    • Dramatic emotional outbursts.
    • Guilt trips.
    • Creating emergencies to draw you back in.
  • Response Strategy:
    • Use the Escalation Deflection Method:
      • Recognize the escalation as a manipulation tactic.
      • Stay emotionally detached and disengage from the situation.
• Playing the Victim:
  • They may portray themselves as victims to elicit sympathy and regain control, sharing exaggerated or fabricated stories of hardship.
  • Response Strategy:
    • Use the Victimhood Deflection Method:
      • Identify the tactic as a manipulation strategy.
      • Decide how to respond based on whether the victimhood is genuine or a ploy.
• Smear Campaign:
  • When control is lost, Narcissists may launch smear campaigns to damage your reputation, often involving others (referred to as "Flying Monkeys") to spread rumors or misinformation.
  • Response Strategy:
    • Use the Power Boundary Method:
      • Refuse to defend or react to the Smear Campaign.
      • Maintain your personal power by not engaging with those spreading rumors.

Additional Advice:

• Understanding these tactics is crucial for self-protection and maintaining boundaries.
• The video encourages viewers to withdraw attention from Narcissists and focus on their own well-being.

Presenters/Sources:

• The speaker is a coach, author, and survivor with over 20 years of research on Self-Worth and narcissistic relationships.

Notable Quotes

— 02:00 — « A narcissist would rather see your life ruined at their own expense than to let you go in peace. »

— 04:04 — « It's like a toddler sometimes a very dangerous toddler throwing a tantrum. »

— 05:51 — « It's hard to imagine how calculated and cruel they're willing to be. »

— 08:25 — « The goal of the smear campaign is to not only render you powerless but to take your power. »

— 09:16 — « Knowing what to expect is your first line of defense. »

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

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