2 years of being a Whore has made me change my mind on some things... The Whore's Bedroom Ep 34

Summary

Lucy Huxley reflects on how her beliefs and experiences have changed after roughly two years of escorting.

Podcast

Lucy plans to make several solo episodes while continuing to interview guests. She values giving other sex workers and people in the industry a platform, as well as the friendships she has made through the podcast. She now has an editor and an assistant, though the podcast itself does not directly earn her money.

A shift in spirituality

After witnessing the death of someone close to her, Lucy expected to feel a spiritual presence but felt nothing. The experience gradually undermined beliefs she had relied on, including that everything happens for a reason and that life follows a destined path. Losing that framework has been painful and has affected her confidence.

She does not judge people who remain spiritual or religious. She recommends Britt Hartley’s work on creating meaningful rituals without religious belief.

Views on infidelity

Based on her experiences with clients in Europe and on trips to Canada, Lucy has noticed that Canadian and American clients seem more likely than European clients to express guilt and shame about cheating. She stresses that this is a generalization based on her own observations.

She believes excessive shame can make honest conversations and relationship repair harder, and values people taking responsibility for their actions. She also says she does not view clients’ relationships as her responsibility.

Dating and money

Lucy’s earlier advice about what women should expect from men in relationships has softened. After two years with her boyfriend, she sees financial arrangements as more individual and dependent on a couple’s circumstances.

She earns much more than he does and sometimes pays for more expensive travel or activities she prefers. She says this works because he does not expect her to pay, appreciates her generosity, and is content with less expensive options. She considers resentment, entitlement, or dismissiveness toward a sex worker’s income serious relationship problems.

Notable locations, works, and people

• Locations: Canada; Europe (discussed generally)
• Books and resources: Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs by Esther Perel; Britt Hartley’s No Nonsense Spirituality content
• People: Lucy Huxley, Britt Hartley, Esther Perel