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6 Changes I Made To Create Success In My Life | The HigherUp Podcast Ep. 63

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key Wellness, Self-Care, and Productivity Strategies (from the episode)

1) Build “sales” skills and understand sales psychology (applies to life, work, relationships)

Use the sales process to frame almost any goal:

  • Introduction + rapport Connect, build comfort, and establish a conversational baseline (including banter).

  • Current state/background questions Clarify where someone is now.

  • Needs/challenge identification Understand what problems they’re facing.

  • Impact/pain discovery Explore why it matters and what it’s costing them.

  • Needs payoff + prioritization Summarize the key issue and confirm what should be addressed first.

  • Presentation Highlight only what solves their specific challenges.

  • Trial closes Check alignment (“Does this feel like what you need?”).

  • Ask Request the raise, the sale, the date, the opportunity, etc.

Core psychology to keep in mind:

  • People decide emotionally, then justify intellectually.
  • The goal isn’t manipulation—it’s understanding human decision-making so you can communicate and position yourself more effectively.

2) “Gamify” life to reduce stress and improve decision-making

Treat challenges like a game:

  • Step back from emotion.
  • View your life as a “playing board.”
  • Focus on strategy, “leveling up,” and making higher-quality moves.

Key mental mechanism:

  • When stressed, ask: “If this were my character in a video game, what would I do next?”

Why it works:

  • High emotional charge blurs judgment.
  • Processing emotion (positive or negative) can lead to clarity.

3) Practice basic financial discipline + basic business acumen (productivity for wealth)

Start with “floor” behaviors—small habits that compound:

  • Save even small amounts: “If you can save $5 this month, save it.”

  • Reinforce an identity rule: “I don’t spend money I haven’t decided to allocate.”

For entrepreneurs, set up a simple structure to reduce risk and improve organization:

  • Form an LLC
  • Open a business checking account
  • Route all non-9-to-5 income into business checking
  • Separate funds into accounts, including:
    • a tax escrow account
    • saving ~30% of earnings into escrow (varies by state/bracket)
  • Pay quarterly taxes to avoid a late lump-sum problem

4) Ask for what you want (simple, not easy)

Reminder:

  • “Closed mouths do not get fed.”

Practical applications:

  • Ask for raises
  • Ask for guests/opportunities (e.g., podcast collaborations)
  • Ask people out / ask for coffee / build friendships

Mindset shift:

  • Fear decreases because the worst outcome is simply “no.”

5) Take ownership (“Extreme Ownership”) to escape victim mentality

Reframe in a way that restores power:

  • “Everything that happens to me is my fault” (Not endless blame—more about taking responsibility and control.)

Use ownership to:

  • Regain control of your narrative
  • Improve future behavior and outcomes

Relationship application:

  • Even when others act badly, consider what you could have done differently.

Outcome mentioned:

  • Over time, the speaker reports more empathy and better positive results.

6) Relationship with God (faith as emotional regulation + inner peace)

The wellness benefit described is peace through surrender, not just positive thinking:

  • During hard seasons, stop wrestling to control outcomes and lean into God’s will
  • Still take ownership of your actions, but surrender the outcome

Practices mentioned:

  • Prayer, including “ringing out your heart” (honest, intense communication)
  • Daily Bible reading, with a suggested order: Gospels → Proverbs → Ecclesiastes

Desired results:

  • Clearer thinking
  • A grounded identity
  • Perseverance during trials
  • Deeper fulfillment

Presenters / Sources Mentioned

  • Michael Smoke (host)
  • Todd Anderson (Dream Recovery)
  • Robert Lewis Stevenson (quote referenced about “selling”)
  • Sandler / Sandler Selling Systems (sales training reference)
  • Jocko Willink (Extreme Ownership—book referenced)
  • Chris Voss (mentioned as an episode/topic reference)
  • Adam Schaefer (Mind Pump co-host; sent a faith-related video)
  • Peter Cone (guest referenced)
  • Gregor Gallagher (guest referenced)
  • Chris Voss (also referenced as a guest)
  • Pastor Phillip (mentioned in discussion of faith)
  • Luis Giglio (mentioned; sermon referenced)
  • Mind Pump (podcast mentioned)

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