Check Her Phone

Summary

Hamza recounts a past relationship with a woman he says had different priorities from his. He was focused on work and self-improvement, while she enjoyed partying and drinking. After repeated incompatibility and a breakup-and-reconciliation cycle, he says he checked her phone and found a note listing past sexual encounters. He describes this as confirming his suspicions, and says he eventually ended the relationship and blocked her.

The video uses that story to argue for choosing partners and friends whose habits and goals align with your own. Much of the discussion, however, relies on sweeping and derogatory claims about women, people who party, and people he considers unsuccessful. These are Hamza’s opinions, not established facts.

Strategies and advice discussed

• Look for shared values and compatible routines. Hamza recommends considering whether a partner’s lifestyle fits your priorities, such as exercise, work, and long-term goals.
• Set boundaries around relationships. He argues against staying in relationships out of loneliness or fear of having few alternatives, and says to end relationships that repeatedly feel incompatible.
• Be deliberate about socializing. He presents socializing when young as a way to practise communication and handle rejection, while urging viewers to devote more time to career goals later.
• Prioritize productive habits. He praises exercise, focused work, and building a business, and criticizes frequent partying and drinking as distractions.
• Choose your social environment carefully. He suggests seeking out people with similar interests and ambitions, including through self-improvement or business communities. He also promotes his own paid community.
• Don’t treat suspicion as proof. Although the story centers on checking a partner’s phone, the video does not offer balanced guidance on privacy or trust; it recounts the speaker’s decision to look and his reaction to what he found.

Presenters and sources

• Hamza, the video’s presenter.
• An anonymous male viewer, whose relationship story Hamza discusses and reads from.