Being "A**hole" is ONLY Way to Long Term Relationship as Men.

Summary

The speaker uses “a-hole” as a provocative label for traits he says can coexist with kindness—not as a call to be cruel. He argues that a healthy long-term relationship requires both personal boundaries and investment in a partner.

Key Ideas and Strategies

• Prioritize yourself: The speaker recommends “enlightened self-interest”—looking after your own needs and goals so you can also be there for others. He says this means not making your self-worth depend on a woman’s approval.
• Keep clear standards: Decide what behavior and relationship qualities you will accept, then act consistently with those boundaries. The speaker links this to an abundance mindset and a willingness to walk away from an incompatible match.
• Aim for emotional independence: He defines emotional detachment as being okay both with and without a partner, rather than shutting off feelings. He describes this as staying relaxed, calm, and confident.
• Practice self-regulation: Meditation and relaxation are suggested as ways to develop a calm, emotionally independent state. The speaker mentions other techniques but does not explain them in the video.
• Balance excitement with care: Using a roller-coaster metaphor, he says attraction can involve emotional highs and lows, while kindness and investment provide a sense of security. He also stresses competence and the ability to build a relationship.
• Examine your mindset: The speaker encourages men to notice whether they routinely prioritize a partner’s needs over their own, and to develop a more balanced self-concept and approach to relationships.

These are the speaker’s relationship views. His broad claims about what women want are presented as generalizations, not established facts.

Presenters and Sources

• Unnamed presenter from Executive Relationship Blueprint
• Rollo Tomassi and The Rational Male (referenced by the presenter)