Weaknesses of Men Every Woman Should Know.

Relationship Tactics Discussed

The speaker, Tomisin Atobatele, presents relationship tactics that she says appeal to men’s egos, emotional needs, and desire for independence. Her overall framing is that understanding these needs can influence how a man responds. These are the speaker’s opinions and generalizations, not universal facts.

• Praise actions, not just appearance. Instead of mainly complimenting a man on his looks, acknowledge specific efforts that benefit the relationship, such as planning a date, making a reservation, or taking care of something. The speaker argues that this may encourage him to keep contributing.

• Keep expressing your personal style. She says a man may take pride in how others view his partner, and advises women not to stop dressing up or wearing makeup just because a partner says he prefers a more natural look. She also emphasizes doing it for oneself.

• Use confidence carefully when asking him to decide. The speaker suggests sharing what you enjoy, then expressing confidence that he can choose and organize a plan. She argues that this may prompt him to demonstrate competence, though the example relies on flattering and challenging his ego.

• Learn what matters to him personally. She recommends paying attention to a partner’s motivations, private interests, and past experiences. She claims that showing understanding around a need he rarely gets met—such as encouragement or acceptance—can create closeness. In the video, this is framed as a way to make someone more attached.

• Offer comforting touch during stress. When a partner seems overwhelmed, she suggests gentle, nonsexual touch, such as rubbing the back of his neck, rather than immediately trying to solve the problem or talk it through. She stresses choosing an appropriate moment.

• Leave room for autonomy. Rather than issuing commands, she recommends sharing preferences and suggestions, then allowing the man to feel that he made the final choice. Her example is repeatedly mentioning the restaurant Nou as a place she would like to visit.

• Show appreciation for everyday efforts. She argues that appreciation should not be reserved for extravagant, social-media-worthy gestures. Examples include organizing a date, bringing flowers, or picking up favorite snacks. She says that constantly dismissing these efforts may discourage further thoughtfulness.

• Make emotional honesty feel safe. She recommends reminding a partner that it is okay to feel sad, disappointed, or upset—including about something she did—and to speak openly without fear of judgment.

• Make him feel listened to and important. She suggests giving focused attention during conversations by maintaining eye contact, leaning in, avoiding distractions, asking follow-up questions, and showing genuine interest.

Promotion and References

The video also promotes the speaker’s online community and one-on-one coaching. It references TikTok and Instagram in discussions of dating expectations and appearance.