The Small Test That Shows If She’s Really Into You

Dating Interest and Enthusiasm

The speaker, Rich Cooper, discusses how he believes men can gauge a woman’s interest while dating. He reads a message exchange in which a man asks a woman to wear a short skirt on their second date. She says the request feels like a demand and ends the interaction. He replies that he was flirting and says goodbye.

Cooper describes three categories of women’s interest: hostility, indifference, and what he calls “true passionate desire.” He argues that someone may chat or go on dates without being strongly interested, and encourages men to focus on partners who show clear enthusiasm. He interprets the woman’s response in the example as indifference, although her message itself expresses a boundary around what she considers an inappropriate request.

Suggested Ways to Assess Interest

Cooper suggests that men:

• Make a light request, such as asking a date to wear a particular outfit or pick up a bottle of wine or a dessert, and observe her response.
• Notice whether she seems eager to arrange a date. He contrasts someone asking “when” she can see you with someone asking “where” the date will be.
• Avoid arguing or trying to persuade someone to like them if interest seems one-sided; instead, end things politely and move on.

These dating tests and interpretations reflect the speaker’s opinions and are not reliable measures of someone’s feelings on their own.

Promotions and References

Cooper also promotes a free online assessment that generates a chart based on seven criteria he associates with being a “high-value man,” as well as his books, community, coaching, and supplements.

Mentioned: Rich Cooper, McDonald’s McFlurry, The Unplugged Alpha, and theunpluggedalpha.com.