God's Kind of Love: Episode 6

Main Ideas and Lessons (God’s Kind of Love vs. “Love” People Often Describe)

• “Love” as commonly practiced is often not God’s kind of love.

  • The video argues that what many people call love today can be earthly, sensual, and “demonic” (i.e., not aligned with Scripture).
  • Because of this, there is widespread confusion about what love is.

• 1 Corinthians 13:1–3 establishes how crucial God’s love (and the motive behind actions) is.

  • Even impressive spiritual actions—speaking in tongues, prophesying, mountain-moving faith, radical generosity, or even martyr-like sacrifice—profit nothing if the motivation is not God’s kind of love.
  • Core principle: The motive behind actions is more important than the actions themselves.
  • Support used: 1 Samuel 16:7 (“Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart.”)

• 1 Corinthians 13:4–5 describes characteristics of God’s kind of love (methodically emphasized through the verses).

  • Verse 4 highlights:
    • “Charity/s love suffers long and is kind” (no short temper / no quick provocation)
    • It does not envy
    • References strife and confusion as tied to wrong motivation/work (citing James 3:16)
    • It is not puffed up (not proud/boastful/self-inflating), with translation comparisons (mentions NIV and Living Bible phrasing)
  • The video contrasts:
    • Self-serving love (benefiting the self, treating a person as a “trophy”)
    • vs. real God’s love (putting others ahead of yourself)

• In verse 5, “God’s love” cannot be unbecoming or out of control.

  • Key traits emphasized:
    • It does not behave itself unbecomingly (the speaker defines the Greek idea as acting in a way that is “unbecoming”)
    • It seeks not its own (not promoting itself; thinking of others)
    • Not easily provoked
    • Thinks no evil
  • The video strongly argues:
    • If someone claims they “can’t control themselves” in sexual/impulsive behavior because “I just love them,” that is presented as not God’s love but lust.
    • God’s gifts and spiritual workings are also argued to be controllable, so chaotic, forced behavior is treated as not from God.

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Practical Method / Instruction-Style Guidance

1) Evaluate love by motive, not by outward religious results

• Compare behavior to 1 Corinthians 13:1–3:
  • If actions are done without God’s kind of love as the motive, they are said to “profit nothing.”
• Use motive-testing:
  • Ask: What is driving this—God’s love, or self/benefit?
• Scripture principle: God looks at the heart (motives), not just outward actions (1 Samuel 16:7).

2) Test love by the traits listed in 1 Corinthians 13:4–5

• Verse 4 traits to look for:

  • Suffers long (patient, not quick to snap)
  • Is kind (not rude/cruel; kindness is central)
  • Does not envy
  • Not puffed up (not proud, not boastful)

• Verse 5 traits to look for:

  • Does not behave itself unbecomingly (never a pattern inconsistent with God/decency)
  • Seeks not its own (not self-promotion)
  • Not easily provoked
  • Thinks no evil

3) Reject the idea that “I can’t control myself” proves love

• The video uses a comparative argument:
  • If spiritual gifts are from God, they are not uncontrolled.
• Apply this logic to emotional/sexual claims:
  • If someone says they are compelled and cannot control themselves, the video frames it as lust or demonic control, not God’s love.
• Supporting example (1 Corinthians 14):
  • Tongues require order and interpretation.
  • Prophetic speech must be self-controlled and orderly (“spirits of prophets are subject to prophets”).

4) Replace self-focus with perspective-taking (empathy)

• Use Philippians 2 guidance:
  • Do things without strife/vanity; practice humility.
  • Esteem others better than yourself.
• Use Philippians 2:4:
  • Don’t only look at “your own things,” but also “the things of others.”
• Link to pride/contending (citing Proverbs 13:10):
  • Contention is traced to pride, defined here as self-centeredness (not only “arrogance”).
• Practice instruction:
  • Ask: What might this person be dealing with? What is their perspective?
  • This is presented as producing more compassion and graciousness.

5) Make love non-manipulative and non-possessive

• The video treats controlling behavior and emotional dependency as signs of wrong “love.”
• If someone becomes miserable/depressed or demands constant proximity due to inability to control feelings, the video presents it as not God’s love.

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Examples and Stories Used to Reinforce the Teaching

• Case #1: “Holy Spirit” disorder claim in worship

  • A woman repeatedly interrupts a church meeting with loud uncontrolled worship (screaming “hallelujah”).
  • The speaker (and others) confront her using 1 Corinthians 14 about order/control in spiritual gifts.
  • The speaker claims it was not the Holy Spirit and says it was demonic; she later testifies she was delivered and could control it afterward.

• Case #2: “Falling in love” between a teen and a school-age person

  • A 17-year-old and an older young woman claim God told them to marry once legal age was reached.
  • The speaker argues it’s lust and warns them it isn’t God.
  • After marriage, the young man is later said to commit severe abuse, go to prison, and the outcome is described as tragic.

• Illustration: perspective in capital punishment debate

  • The speaker describes watching a documentary against capital punishment and wavering emotionally.
  • They report God gave a perspective shift: consider the victim’s viewpoint rather than the perpetrator’s.
  • This supports the teaching to look at things from another person’s perspective.

• Case #3: spouse who attempted to kill the woman

  • The speaker describes counseling using the love-and-empathy scriptures.
  • The woman prays, and the speaker says the Lord showed background context about the husband’s origins and dedication to evil.
  • She later shows “love” (as defined by the video) and the husband reportedly comes to repentance/begins to change.

• Case #4: employee behavior changes

  • An employee starts taking long lunches, arriving late, and leaving early.
  • Instead of immediately confronting/rebuking harshly, the speaker prays and seeks explanation by empathy.
  • The employee later clarifies issues (divorce later suspected), and the speaker says his workplace behavior improved.

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Key Concluding Emphasis

• Meditate on 1 Corinthians 13:4–5 to recognize what people commonly get trapped with is often emotional impulse rather than God’s love.
• If love is truly God’s kind of love, it:
  • is patient/kind,
  • does not envy or boast,
  • does not act unbecomingly,
  • does not seek its own,
  • and can be controlled (not forcing people or overriding self-control).

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Speakers / Sources Featured

Speakers

• Andrew (announced as “now here’s Andrew”)
• Jamie (mentioned as playing piano and singing during worship)

Sources Referenced (Scriptures)

• 1 Corinthians 13 (especially verses 1–5; discussed throughout)
• 1 Samuel 16:7
• James 3:16
• 1 Corinthians 14 (order/control of spiritual gifts; tongues/prophecy guidelines)
• Philippians 2:3–4 (humility; esteeming others; not looking only to one’s own things)
• Proverbs 13:10 (“Only by pride comes contention”)
• Genesis 9 (mentioned in relation to capital punishment)

Other Media Mentioned

• A documentary against capital punishment (no title given)