MEN need to have a PLAN WITH WOMEN: preventing relationship creep

Summary

Dr. Orion Taraban argues that men should understand what they want from a relationship before becoming involved, rather than drifting into a commitment that doesn’t fit their goals. He calls the gradual shift toward a more serious relationship—through small steps such as leaving a toothbrush, meeting family, or planning trips—“relationship creep.”

These gestures aren’t inherently bad, but repeatedly going along with them without considering your own intentions can gradually lead to a life or commitment you didn’t deliberately choose. Taraban advises developing self-knowledge, communicating honestly, and acting consistently with your intentions from the start, so both people can decide whether they want the same kind of relationship.

Key Strategies

• Clarify your intentions: Know what kind of relationship you want before engaging with someone.
• Match your behavior to your goal: Don’t act like a committed partner if you don’t want a committed relationship.
• Notice gradual changes: Pay attention to small steps that may move a relationship toward greater commitment.
• Set boundaries thoughtfully: Don’t agree to things simply because each one seems minor in isolation.
• Be honest with yourself and the other person: Make choices aligned with what you want, allowing either person to opt in or out.

Presenter and Sources

• Presenter: Dr. Orion Taraban
• External sources cited: None in the subtitles.