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파친코 저자 민진 리의 예일대 연설: 야속하기만 하던 시간을 내 편으로 만드는 법

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Educational

Main ideas and lessons

  • Personal origin story of delayed success

    • As a Yale student (Class Day 1990), the speaker felt disillusioned: politically betrayed, physically alienated by a serious liver condition, socially disconnected, and worried she’d “wasted” valuable years.
    • After Yale she went to law school (Georgetown) and then practiced law in Manhattan briefly, but quit after ~2 years to write fiction.
    • Writing took far longer than expected:
      • Debut novel published after ~12 years (at age 38)
      • Pachinko published later (around age 48)
      • Third novel planned for later (around age 58)
    • She frames herself as a slow, misunderstood learner who felt she lacked mentors and faced exclusion because she challenged “important people.”

  • A message to the “anxious generation”

    • She references major contemporary pressures felt by the Class of 2026: pandemics, wars, mass shootings, climate change, inflation, attacks on voting rights, AI, economic and attention inequality, housing affordability crises, unemployment concerns, corruption, cuts to scientific research, decline of local news, loss of liberties for oppressed communities, and rising distrust.
    • The label “anxious generation” is described as rightfully aggrieved, and they deserve credit for adapting under hyper-vigilance.
    • Key warning: in difficult trials, young people cannot afford to panic. They must make sober, steady, clear-sighted decisions.

  • Core principle: choose what matters over what feels urgent

    • Her central advice is:
      • Choose the important over the urgent
    • Urgency is often engineered by systems and habits (messages, DMs, addictive impulses), but importance is what truly matters for your life.

  • A framework for judging importance: “time bifocals”

    • She introduces a method using the Greek concept of two kinds of time:
      • Chronos = measurable/clock time, deadlines, schedules, benchmarks (once the story starts, “the clock starts ticking”)
      • Kairos = opportune time, strategic openings, meaningful “right moment,” often transformative
    • She describes task glasses / time bifocals as a metaphor:
      • Wear them to get two perspectives—near and far—so you can interpret unfamiliar situations correctly, like an author/historian of your own life.
    • Looking back, she suggests what seemed painful or insignificant at the time were often kairos (transformative turning points).

  • Illustrative “kairos” moments during Yale and beyond

    • Founding a Korea Studies Task Force (student activism)
      • She studied Korean (Yonsei in the summer between her first and second year).
      • She found Yale lacked Korean history/language instruction.
      • With encouragement from Dr. Hesung Chun Koh, she helped start a Korea Studies Task Force.
      • With supporters, she:
        • wrote letters to Yale administration,
        • coordinated with student organizations,
        • enlisted parents to pressure leadership,
        • helped achieve a Korean language program starting fall 1990, continuing for decades.
    • Facing unfair academic grading (and pushing for accountability)
      • She became ill with chronic hepatitis B; doctors warned of liver cancer risk.
      • In a Korean history class, she was failed after minimal written feedback (“Ah, me. What’s to say?”).
      • She requested a breakdown by gender and ethnic Korean identity, learning that many ethnic Koreans received low marks, and challenged assumptions about who “can write history.”
      • She faced backlash and threats but received support (chaplains, friends) and ultimately earned a B-.
    • A college tea that reshapes her life’s direction
      • A Yale “master’s tea” included a story by a missionary about Koreans in Japan and a child pushed toward suicide by cruelty and exclusion (from yearbook comments).
      • She resolved to learn about Koreans in Japan and later traced her decision to write Pachinko to that moment.
    • Blind-submission writing prizes (validation across uncertainty)
      • She won a non-fiction prize at Yale through blind submission and later won a fiction prize (Veitch prize), challenging the idea that she was incapable.
    • Decisive career pivots
      • She left a history seminar after a professor misread her abilities (“you don’t know how to write/argue in English”) due to her being a second-language speaker.
      • She presents her “kairos” as decisive action when she has limited chronos, rather than passive waiting.

  • Kairos in health and survival

    • In early adulthood she again faced serious liver disease/cirrhosis.
    • She underwent an experimental treatment (interferon B), endured severe side effects, and was fully cured.
    • She emphasizes: kairos can happen despite you, not because of you.
    • Her role is to do what ordinary people can: meet important needs, keep learning, do your share, and keep showing up.

  • Final reassurances about time

    • Time isn’t the enemy; it’s a teacher and a friend.
    • Dreams that become real often turn complex and uncertain—this is when you must confront them honestly.
    • If you let both the “brightest and darkest” moments teach you, nothing was wasted.
    • With “time bifocals,” the Class of 2026 can see through confusion, fear-mongering, and chaos to act with steadiness and truth.

Methodology / instructions (detailed)

  1. Don’t panic; stay sober

    • In challenging conditions, avoid panic.
    • Aim for steady, clear-sighted decision-making.

  2. Apply the priority rule

    • Choose the important over the urgent.
    • Treat common “urgent” distractions as likely unimportant unless proven otherwise:
      • Text messages / DMs
      • Addictive impulses
    • Expect urgency to be persuasive, not necessarily meaningful.

  3. Learn to recognize “importance” through two lenses of time

    • Use the “time bifocals” metaphor:
      • Put them on when facing uncertainty or unfamiliar situations.
      • See yourself as both:
        • author (future narrative choices)
        • historian (meaning-making from past events)
    • Interpret situations using:
      • Chronos (measurable time):
        • Deadlines, schedules, clock-like progression, benchmarks, quantitative planning
      • Kairos (opportune time):
        • Right/worthwhile moments, openings, transformative seasons
        • Often only visible clearly in retrospect

  4. Treat past pain as potentially transformative

    • When reviewing your life, don’t assume early impressions are the real meaning.
    • Ask: What felt small, painful, or insignificant then might have been kairos later?

  5. Act decisively and keep showing up

    • When an opportunity (kairos) appears, respond with initiative rather than waiting.
    • Even when outcomes aren’t fully within your control, responsibilities remain:
      • address important needs,
      • keep learning when you don’t know,
      • do your share of the work,
      • keep showing up.

Speakers / sources featured (and credited)

Speaker

  • Min Jin Lee (author; the main speaker delivering the Yale address)

Institutions / contexts

  • Yale University (Class of 2026 invitation context; Yale life and programs)
  • Georgetown Law School (law path)
  • Manhattan law firm (brief legal career)
  • Yonsei University (language study in Korea)
  • Yale–New Haven Hospital (liver disease diagnosis and medical guidance)
  • Trumbull College (master’s tea and chaplain/college leadership context)

People mentioned

  • President Magill (inviter/invitation—received the invitation)
  • Dr. Hesung Chun Koh (East Rock Institute founder; encouragement to start Korea Studies Task Force)
  • Harry Nahm (Berkeley class of ’88; co-chair/supporter for task force)
  • Benno Schmidt (then-president of Yale; receiving parents’ letters)
  • Harry Adams (Trumbull College head; also the university chaplain)
  • Judy Sialiano (friend who cooked chicken casserole; personal support)
  • Rabbi James Ponet (university chaplain; wrote an encouraging letter after a death threat)
  • Fred Strebe (writing professor; taught the non-fiction seminar where she won the Henry P. Wright Prize)
  • Unnamed historian professor (history seminar professor who gave a C and advised remedial help)
  • Unnamed professor in the Korean history class (failed many students; chalkboard data debate)
  • Sam (her son)
  • Sinclair Lewis (favorite writer mentioned; indirectly tied to her Yale aspiration)
  • Jane Addams (Hull House; her first senior paper topic)
  • Dean Rusk (named; proposed Korean division context)
  • Charles Bonesteel (named; proposed Korean division context)

Literary / religious sources quoted or referenced

  • Homer’s The Odyssey (Odysseus and kairos moments)
  • Ecclesiastes (“a time for everything and a season for every activity…”)
  • Sinclair Lewis (writer admired; Yale curiosity via biography)

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