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Key takeaways & advice (backdoor / sexual pleasure)

Backdoor play mindset & readiness

• For women who can’t “reach the finish line” (O) with typical partner play, the host recommends trying backdoor play.
• It should be something you want/crave, not something you force—if you’re not emotionally ready, you may not follow through.
• She also suggests checking your stomach readiness (don’t do it if you feel like you might need to “toot”); let things digest.

Make it feel like a special event

Turn it into “lights, camera, action”:

• Light candles
• Put on music (especially for focus/relaxation)
• Create a romantic setup vs treating it like “regular” sex

Warm-up sequence before penetration

If nervous, ease into sensation:

• Have your partner do face-nose-to-butt / licking / sniffing while you relax
• Use a tongue “tongue poke” (sliding/licking into the back-door area)
• Add gentle finger action first (thumb/finger gliding) to get used to the sensation
• Emphasis: nothing should hurt—warm up first.

Lubrication essentials (and what type)

• Silicone lube vs water-based lube
  • She says water-based dissolves faster during backdoor play.
  • Silicone “sticks” and stays longer.
  • If you notice dryness/tightness (described as a “ring” sensation), add more lube.
• Mess control
  • Expect lube to get messy (especially with silicone).
  • Put down a towel
  • Have baby wipes ready

Post-mechanics / shower planning

• She recommends a walk after dinner to aid digestion before backdoor play.
• Plan on a shower afterward, because silicone doesn’t come off easily with just water.

“Toy + cucumber” strategy

• She calls a toy used simultaneously a “secret weapon” for extra pleasure.
• Caution: toy + cucumber can make her finish too quickly (like within ~2 minutes).
• If you finish early:
  • Take a break (5–20 minutes), cuddle, then try round two
  • Round two is said to be easier because you’re already more relaxed.

Position guidance (start gentle, build up)

• Start with beginner-friendly positions and progress to more intense ones later.
• Suggested progression themes:
  • Begin with something like missionary
  • Then transition to positions that increase ease/angle (she mentions a “speed bump” on the stomach)
  • Eventually try options like riding / reverse cowgirl / doggy
• Backdoor can be gentle or slow, not only intense.

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“Plug” as a recommended tool for training / extra stimulation

Why plugs are used

• She recommends using a plug to introduce backdoor sensation gradually.
• Rationale:
  • Adds extra stimulation to reach orgasm faster
  • Men are described as visual, so plugs can be a turn-on
• She suggests:
  • Start with a plug on yourself (solo) if you’re intimidated
  • Go gradually in size/weight (beginner-friendly options first; small and lightly weighted versions mentioned)

Surprise / partner use

• She suggests putting in a plug before your partner arrives:
  • Wear cute lingerie/pajamas
  • When your partner notices it after undressing, she expects increased arousal/“drooling” and stronger engagement
• She frames plugs as:
  • Beginner friendly
  • Low “mess/no fuss”

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Q&A highlights (health, sensitivity, and troubleshooting)

Pregnancy fear after “first cream pie”

• Fear/paranoia is described as common even when on birth control.
• Birth control is described as ~99.9% effective (not 100%).
• Wait 1.5–2 weeks before taking a pregnancy test.
• Tests suggested from: Dollar Tree, CVS, or Walmart
• If very stressed: talk to someone supportive.

Partner sensitivity (can’t handle intense suction/pressure)

If partner is sensitive to penetration-style mouth action:

• Treat the cucumber like an ice cream cone
• Use tongue/licking more, and suction less
• Do gentle “graze” with fingers rather than yanking/tightening
• For mouth technique: slide/graze rather than intense suction

When a woman “can’t feel anything”

• Internal/cervix sensation is described as less receptor-dense than external areas.
• Suggestions:
  • Add more stimulation to external areas (the “bean/lips/pastrami” area in her wording)
  • “Hot dog trick”: have partner slide at the outside between the “lips” area, then go in/out
  • Add concurrent rubbing during positions (especially while partner penetrates)

Small cervix / dryness / insertion difficulty

If insertion becomes too tight/dry and slips out:

• Choose positions that open you up and stay wetter:
  • Speed bump (stomach flat) and spooning
  • She says doggy can be harder due to dryness
• Use lube before you start, not only after things feel dry.
• Keep lube near the bedside and reapply as needed.
• Her “proper lube method”:
  • Don’t only apply lube to the outside
  • Put some lube on fingers and get it somewhat inside
  • Then apply a bit outside and on the tip—she claims this helps lube last longer

Icy/cooling options for reduced sensation

• If someone is less sensitive around external areas:
  • She mentions cooling/sting products (e.g., ice cube play; lubes with cooling effects)

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Notable products / brands mentioned

• Lelo Personal Moisturizer (water-based lube/moisturizer referenced)
• Silicone lube (recommended for staying power during backdoor play)
• Pregnancy tests at: Dollar Tree, CVS, Walmart
• Baby wipes (for cleanup)
• Sex toy plugs (various sizes; described as rhinestone/shiny/diamond style; lightly weighted options mentioned)

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Notable locations / general references

• “Spicy store” (where she buys backdoor-related items)
• Beach, car, and other general outdoor/anywhere settings mentioned for sex (contrasted with backdoor being made “special”)
• Bathroom / Dollar Tree / CVS / Walmart (shopping-related references for pregnancy test)

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Speaker

• Tally Smith, host of Girl Core Podcast (Episode 77)