How to Control Your Reality | 7 Laws of the Universe

Seven Personal Practices for Shaping How You Experience Life

Valeria Brovkina presents these practices as ways to shape how she experiences life. She emphasizes that they are not a substitute for effort: her mindset developed through experience, trial and error, and long-term therapy. She describes her ideas about the universe as beliefs that help her, not guaranteed ways to get particular outcomes.

1. Cancel anxious thought loops. When a fearful prediction or negative scenario appears, say, “I’m canceling this,” and remind yourself that you don’t know what will happen. The aim is to stop feeding anxiety and be selective about where you place your attention—not to assume everything will magically work out.

2. Replace “I want” with “I choose.” Turn wishes into decisions about your actions and standards. For example, instead of wishing for a healthy relationship, choose to accept only relationships where you’re treated well. Be clear about what you will and won’t accept.

3. Do what you can, then release what you can’t control. Take the steps available to you, then remind yourself, “I did what I could.” Valeria says this helps reduce the stress of trying to control other people or every detail of life.

4. Forgive and let go. For situations that are over but keep replaying in your mind, use the phrase, “I forgive and I let go.” She describes forgiveness as releasing emotional attachment for your own peace—not as excusing someone or letting them back into your life.

5. Practice noticing good fortune. Choose to see yourself as lucky, loved, and supported. Valeria suggests this can help you notice positive events and possibilities you might otherwise overlook.

6. Bring your attention and energy back to yourself. When mentally drained, try saying, “I’m returning my energy to myself.” Notice whether rumination, worries, or social media are consuming your attention, then redirect it toward something more useful or nourishing, such as meditation, a project, a plan, or a hobby.

7. Ask for guidance, then stay observant. Valeria says she asks God, the universe, or her “higher self” for direction or a sign, then looks for subtle cues rather than anxiously waiting for a particular answer. She recommends focusing on the next step and becoming calm enough to notice what is happening around you.

Presenter/source: Valeria Brovkina