Let go all sh*t (psychologically)

Overview

The presenter argues that difficulty letting go of a person or situation may not be solved by suppressing recurring thoughts. Instead, she suggests identifying the underlying feelings and unmet needs that keep those thoughts active, such as fear of abandonment, rejection, insecurity, shame, or a lack of self-trust.

She connects these patterns to past experiences and says they can affect relationships, work, and decision-making.

Key Strategies and Takeaways

• Write while you watch: Keep a notebook and note the recurring problem, the feelings it brings up, and what you may be seeking beneath it.
• Track the feeling, not just the thought: Rather than fighting thoughts like “I’ll never succeed” or “I can’t leave,” ask what emotion or fear is driving them and what reassurance or need you’re looking for.
• Look for repeated patterns: Notice whether the same fears show up across relationships, friendships, work, and everyday choices. Reflect on how earlier experiences may have shaped your sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth.
• Practice self-forgiveness and forgiveness of others: The presenter frames forgiveness as a way to stop carrying resentment—not as permission to resume contact or accept harmful treatment. She also cautions against judging your younger self by what you know now.
• Meet your own needs: Don’t rely on another person to fill a deep sense of emptiness. Build self-care and self-trust by treating yourself with care and following through on commitments you make to yourself.
• Try inner-child exercises: Write a letter to your younger self, imagine offering that child the care and reassurance they needed, and give yourself evidence that you can keep yourself safe and valued.
• Take meaningful action: Small treats or purchases may feel comforting, but the presenter says they are not a substitute for action—such as journaling, using the supplies you buy, spending reflective time alone, or pursuing choices that make you feel valued.
• Set boundaries and protect yourself: Recognize people-pleasing and difficulty saying no. Forgiveness does not mean returning to a toxic or manipulative relationship.
• Consider further support and learning: The presenter recommends reflective reading and mentions therapy-style practices such as meditation, yoga, art therapy, drama therapy, and sound therapy.

Sources and Presenter

• Presenter: Jasmine, who introduces herself as a life coach and practicing psychologist.
• Books mentioned:
  • How to Nurture Your Inner Child by Nicole LePera
  • How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera
  • How to Be the Love You Seek
  • A Carl Jung shadow-work journal or diary