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34 Years On This Island In Thailand… “All My Friends Went To Jail”

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Lifestyle

Overview

Steve, a British ex–army/police diver, moved to Ko Kramak (Koh / Koh Kramac area) in eastern Thailand near the Cambodian border in the early 1990s and stayed for decades. He describes an island life that began with few amenities (no roads, limited services, little/no electricity) and grew into a thriving dive/travel operation—still small, family-run, and protected from mass tourism development.

Early Island Life & Career Path

  • Joined the British Army at 16, left at 25, then worked as a police officer.
  • Moved to Thailand to dive and began working in a diveshop in/near Kotal (Kota/Koh Tao area referenced as “Kotal”).
  • Over time, he witnessed diving infrastructure grow from a few dive shops to over a hundred.
  • Used early internet and map exploration to find remote islands near the Cambodian border, then fell in love with the island.
  • Helped found the island’s first backpacker resort, Lazy Days, focused mainly on 18–25-year-old students (undergrads/postgrads/take-a-year-out travelers).

Building an Island Community (and Keeping It Small)

Steve describes the island as controlled by one extended family group, effectively splitting into five families, who steer development.

Key limits he mentions include:

  • No building higher than ~15 meters
  • No big-chain facilities, including efforts to stop developments like 7-Elevens, KFC, McDonald’s, etc.
  • Community pushback also allegedly stopped ideas like:
    • a runway
    • a large company purchase of the east side

He emphasizes a family-friendly, “green/clean” approach.

Island Challenges & Lifestyle Reality

Steve says the hardest part of daily life isn’t the diving—it’s the physical workload:

  • Humping tanks (lugging cylinders to the boat and back)
  • Washing and maintaining equipment

He adds that:

  • Diving itself is described as the easiest/most enjoyable part of the day.
  • There’s no belief that problems are “solved by outside help”—instead, on-island life means you make or fix what you need.

Health & Cancer Journey (Survivorship)

Steve describes being a cancer survivor:

  • Diagnosed about 10 years ago with type 1 low-grade blood cancer and bladder cancer
  • Had 3 rounds of chemotherapy, then chose chemo-radiation rather than removing the bladder
    • The goal was improving the chance of preserving nerves/prostate
  • Chemo-radiation lasted about one month
    • He reports fatigue but no burn marks/blisters
  • Follow-up CT scans in the UK have reportedly been negative multiple times
    • He references a scan coming up in August

Advice

  • He recommends getting checked once a year if you’re 40+
    • Notes it’s free in the UK, but in Thailand it can cost around 20,000 B
  • He stresses early detection as crucial.

Mental Approach

After diagnosis and a “dark period,” he says he shifted into anger and positivity, which helped him endure treatment.

Safety & Diving Philosophy

He portrays overall dive safety as strong:

  • Claims no decompression sickness and no major dive incidents on his island
  • His worst personal near-miss:
    • A malfunctioning SPG (pressure gauge) reading incorrectly (showing “80 bars”), creating a potentially dangerous situation

In 30 years, the only major injury he recalls:

  • A diver suffering a broken toe after a weight/buckle mishap

He emphasizes:

  • training safety discipline
  • teaching students not to handle the weight belt buckle incorrectly

Sustainability & Environmental Habits (Plastic Control)

Steve describes strong anti-litter and anti-plastic practices aboard boats:

  • No/zero plastic on the boat
  • Use of recyclable plates and reusable items that get washed
  • All excursion garbage is brought back (100% of waste returns)

He also suggests a practical “customer help” approach:

  • If people see floating plastic, he asks them to pick it up and return it for disposal

He links plastic to wildlife harm:

  • Plastic bags are eaten; animals may survive ingestion but can’t digest properly, leading to starvation

He notes local pollution is severe and references regional context:

  • Gulf of Thailand and/or Mekong-like river pollution
    • described as top-rank river pollution worldwide

Spill Risk Concern

He also expresses concern about nearby waters potentially holding large oil reserves—and that a spill would be catastrophic for the island.

Family Life, Integration, and “Misconceptions”

  • Long-term partner: Marian, Dutch
    • They are not married and call it “hot air”
  • Two grown sons:
    • Tam (21) and Luca (23)—both now diving instructors
  • Family separation:
    • Marian visits in blocks (several weeks)
    • The island closes seasonally for breaks (about 1.5–2 months)

He argues remote island life isn’t something you “just dream into”:

  • If you want it, he claims you can make it work in Thailand

Integration details:

  • His sons attended local school
  • Thai children stayed over
  • He mentions friendships with Thai families and community events

Cultural Anecdotes From Thailand

Steve shares “Thailand is amazing” moments, including:

  • A weird/awkward story about hair application of “rat poison”/blue powder
    • likely a lice-related treatment
    • reportedly applied by school/community without telling parents initially

He also adds humor about:

  • relaxing evenings with sunset beers
  • references to marijuana being “legal,” saying it hasn’t led to violence in his experience

Travel & Travel Tech Mention (Sponsored)

A sponsored segment promotes:

  • Surfshark VPN for privacy on public Wi‑Fi
  • Bypassing geo-restrictions
  • Adjusting location for potential flight/hotel deals

Includes:

  • a checkout code word: “nakedguru”
  • a money-back guarantee
  • link referenced as surshark.com/nakedguru (as stated in the summary)

Future Plans

  • Plans to stay for one more year
  • After that:
    • train/empower his sons (and others) in equipment maintenance, including:
      • fixing regulators
      • compressor maintenance
      • servicing skills
  • Then transition toward a long-term dream:
    • sailing with his partner
    • mentions a desire for a better boat/cabin space, possibly a catamaran
  • He states the island community/dive operation will be taken over by his sons, and he’ll gradually step back.

Notable Locations, Products, and People

Locations

  • Ko Kramak / Comarmac (island)
  • Kota / Kotal (training/work region)
  • Koh Tao area (referenced as part of “Kotal” context)
  • Simui (travel/dive context)
  • Liverpool (UK)
  • Amsterdam (Netherlands)
  • Sweden sailing trip (mentions routes around Börnholm/Bornholm and Christian/Christiansø-style wording)
  • Koh Kramak / near Cambodian border

Organizations / Brands

  • Kmarmac Divers
  • Divers.com
  • Resort: Lazy Days

Products / Sponsor

  • Surfshark VPN (code: nakedguru; link referenced as surshark.com/nakedguru)

People

  • Steve (speaker)
  • Marian (Dutch partner)
  • Sons: Tam and Luca
  • Dive-industry references to “Uncle Mac / Mac”
  • Customer names include a diver nicknamed “Peanut Head”

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