Mian Biwi ke Azdwaji Taluq se Pehly Walima Karna?

Summary

The speaker argues that weddings in the subcontinent have become unnecessarily expensive and complicated, potentially delaying marriage and making it harder for young people to marry. He urges parents not to postpone their children’s marriages simply because they want them to earn more or meet costly expectations.

On the question raised in the video, he says that the Sunnah is to hold the walima after the couple have begun married life. In his view, holding it earlier is contrary to the Sunnah, though the subtitles suggest that this does not invalidate the marriage or prevent the walima from being held later. He emphasizes that the nikah establishes the marital relationship; elaborate ceremonies are not what make a couple husband and wife.

He also stresses simplicity. The Prophet’s walimas were modest, and families should avoid lavish events, excessive demands, and turning wedding customs into displays of status. Providing useful gifts or basic household items to a couple is not inherently wrong, provided it is voluntary and not treated as an obligation.

Finally, he cautions against recording and sharing wedding events on smartphones and social media, noting that videos can be leaked and cause harm. His broader advice is to arrange marriages in a timely, practical way and keep wedding customs within reasonable limits.

Presenter

Engineer Muhammad Ali Mirza