How to Deal With Loneliness

Summary

Dwayne discusses loneliness, particularly among young men. He argues that while companionship can be valuable, it’s important to become someone you can live comfortably with when you’re alone. He shares personal opinions about gender and relationships, while cautioning men not to respond to hostility with hostility or treat women as enemies.

Key strategies and advice

• Build a healthier relationship with yourself. Consider what you’d want in a companion—such as honesty, kindness, and encouragement—and practice offering those qualities to yourself.
• Be honest without being cruel. Acknowledge past mistakes and take responsibility, while recognizing that you can learn, change, and move forward. Constant self-criticism can make solitude harder.
• Encourage yourself to take the next step. Look for practical ways out of situations that feel stuck. Dwayne emphasizes that change may take courage and sacrifice, while acknowledging that some people face real constraints.
• Don’t stay in a damaging relationship just to avoid being alone. He suggests that being single can be preferable to a relationship that harms your well-being.
• Focus on what you can control. You can’t change other people, but you can make choices about your own behavior, boundaries, and direction.
• Avoid turning frustration into hostility. Dwayne warns against reacting to perceived hostility toward men by becoming hateful or derogatory toward women. He encourages men to remain strong and decent rather than framing relationships as a war.
• If faith is important to you, draw on it. He briefly describes belief in God as a source of companionship and support.

These are the presenter’s personal reflections, not professional mental-health guidance.

Presenter/source: Dwayne, Dry Creek Wrangler School. He references the Bible.