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Test her: how to screen women

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key Strategies and Tips for Screening Women Before Entering a Relationship

Importance of Testing Women

Men should actively “test” women before entering sexual or romantic relationships, similar to how women test men. This approach helps avoid involvement with potentially difficult or toxic partners.

Identifying “Bomb” Women

  • Definition: Women who “explode” emotionally over minor issues based on subjective notions of right and wrong.
  • Signs: Yelling, pouting, name-calling, throwing things, or threatening the relationship.
  • Implications: Such behavior indicates emotional immaturity or deeper personality dysfunction.
  • Advice: Avoid relationships with these women to prevent stress, conflict, and the feeling of walking on eggshells.

Controlled Detonation Method (Testing Early)

  • Inspired by bomb squads performing controlled detonations, men should conduct early tests to safely reveal problematic traits.
  • Early testing saves time, energy, and emotional investment.

Dating as a Hiring Process Analogy

  • Men are employers offering relationship opportunities; women are applicants.
  • Like job interviews, ask questions that reveal willingness to handle less desirable but necessary tasks (e.g., working Saturdays).
  • Interpreting Responses:
    • High interest: Agreeing without complaint or showing willingness with a positive spin.
    • Moderate interest: Negotiating terms, indicating perceived equality and less enthusiasm.
    • Bomb response: Offense or outrage, indicating entitlement or low interest.

Requesting Pictures Before a Date

  • Clarifies mutual understanding that the meeting is a date with sexual possibilities, not just a friendly chat.
  • Helps assess attraction and character early on.
  • Positive responses: Indicate high interest and good character.
  • Explosive or offended responses: Signal a “bomb” and low interest in a sexual relationship.

Handling Negative Reactions

  • Do not argue or try to change the person.
  • Appreciate the early warning and move on without wasting resources.

Overall Goal

Collect reliable data on attraction and character before investing time, money, and emotional energy.

Presenters / Sources

  • Dr. Orion Terban (Psychologist, presenter of Psych Better Living Through Psychology)

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