Thoughts Feelings and Behaviour

How Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviour Shape Relationships

Thoughts, feelings, and behaviour influence one another, creating a cycle in relationships. For example, believing a partner cannot be relied on may lead someone to push them away. This can leave them feeling unsupported and lonely, reinforcing the original belief and making the relationship feel increasingly hopeless.

The cycle can also move in a more positive direction. A small change at any point can prompt further changes, such as:

• Letting your partner help rather than pushing them away.
• Noticing whether this helps you feel more supported and cared for.
• Considering whether it changes your thoughts about your partner’s respect and concern.
• Turning towards your partner, which can help them feel needed and encourage a sense that you are getting on better.

Presenter/source: Maeve Hurley