Beware Of The Shy & Structured Woman

Overview

Coach Corey Wayne discusses dating women he describes as “shy and structured”—women who may send mixed signals because of insecurity, inexperience, or beliefs about how they should behave. He says this can make it difficult to tell whether someone is interested and argues that men should decide whether they want to continue dating someone who holds back.

The Questioner’s Experience

The questioner describes several dates with a reserved woman. She was quiet at first and declined or turned away from a kiss more than once, then explained that she was shy and inexperienced. They later kissed after he tried again.

Their dates included visiting her classroom, going to a lake, playing a game, and spending time on a playground.

Wayne’s Advice and Perspective

• Make date plans clearly and decisively rather than leaving them vague.
• Initiate a kiss when you want to, while paying attention to the woman’s response. Wayne criticizes the questioner for choosing a goodbye hug on the first date, interpreting it as a lack of confidence.
• Improve your own approach to dating before deciding that the woman’s shyness is the only issue.
• If you choose to see her again, create a comfortable opportunity to kiss and gradually become more intimate. Wayne also recommends practicing safe sex.
• Consider whether you want to date someone whose shyness or hesitation requires repeated effort to interpret. Wayne describes such women as insecure or “structured”; these are his opinions, not established facts.

Other Details

The video ends with Wayne promoting his website, paid phone coaching, and his book, How to Be a 3% Man.

Notable locations and items: A lake, the woman’s classroom, a car, a playground, and How to Be a 3% Man Speaker: Coach Corey Wayne