#BossMama 42 | Memendam = Badan Bisa “Sakit” Karena Emosi? | Raden Prisya

Key wellness strategies & self-care/productivity ideas from the discussion

• Use somatic healing instead of only “positive thinking”

  • If you’re overthinking, don’t just force affirmations—track what your body is doing (tension, freezing, heaviness).
  • The body often “stores” memories and emotional patterns in the body, not only in the mind.

• Refine ambition by checking bodily alignment

  • “Lazy ambition” may come from protection: the goal is attached to safety/security rather than authentic desire.
  • Ask: When I aim for this goal, how do I feel in my body along the way?
  • If you don’t enjoy the journey, it may indicate the goal isn’t truly aligned with your body’s nervous system.

• Understand nervous-system overwhelm signals (don’t normalize them)

  • Early signs: soreness, sleepiness, fatigue
  • If ignored: can escalate into more tension, then vertigo (described as the body “getting louder” when it can’t be ignored).
  • Overthinking can be a “body message” asking for follow-up (not just more analysis).

• Somatic “parts work”: greet, contain, and regulate triggered emotions

  • Emotions are treated as “parts” occupying a “room” inside you.
  • When triggered:
    • Notice the bodily cues (e.g., shoulders rise, tingling, urge to cry).
    • Place a hand on your chest
    • Say: “I know you’re there… let me take care of this. You can rest/come back when you need.”
  • Don’t respond immediately—be with the emotion first, then decide.

• Create emotional safety by showing children (and yourself) that feelings are okay

  • A “secure attachment” paradox is discussed: mothers may feel safe space is minimal, but still try to create safe space for others.
  • The proposed solution is radical honesty + emotional accompaniment, not perfection:
    • Share emotion appropriately (e.g., “Mom feels uncomfortable; do you want to help me water the plants?”)
    • It’s okay to cry—what matters is whether the crying is overwhelming/dysregulating or contained and accompanied.
  • Healthy rule of thumb: teach children anger and sadness can be held safely (not forbidden forever).

• Night/rest as regulation + idea-generation

  • The body is described as ready to rest when it’s dark; digesting/“processing/work” happens less at night.
  • Productive angle: ideas can come when the mind is settled—avoid constant cellphone stimulation and use quieter windows.
  • A Muslim practice highlighted: Tahajud as a key self-regulation and spiritual grounding time.

• Tahajud as “alpha mode” for manifestation & presence

  • Prayer in the last third of the night is framed as:
    • grounding inward
    • supporting better mental state for presence/manifestation
  • Practical idea: set up your environment (quiet, lights off) and treat this time as reconnection, not just obligation.

• Somatic techniques tied to prayer / body-mind connection

  • For Muslims: use prayer movements (including prostration) as a body-regulation mechanism.
  • For non-Muslims: do body-mind connection exercises suited to personal preferences (somatic/mindfulness movement).

• Women-specific sensory regulation via repetitive “sensory practice”

  • Suggested as nervous-system stabilization:
    • washing dishes / repetitive contact with water and soap
    • folding clothes repeatedly
  • Framed as especially helpful for women because of a naturally receptive, sensing-focused nervous system.

• Support systems matter

  • Embracing a new identity (e.g., motherhood) depends not only on the person but also on support system + openness to unlearn.

Bullet-list “how-to” tips mentioned

• When you overthink

  • Notice body position/tension first
  • Don’t rely only on affirmations—follow bodily signals

• When you feel triggered

  • Put a hand on your chest
  • Say: “I know you’re there.”
  • Empathize and ask: “Let me take care of this—rest while I handle it.”

• To build self-safe space (and model it for children)

  • Be honest about emotions (without turning it into dysregulation)
  • Accompany emotions rather than hiding/forbidding them

• For nighttime regulation and connection

  • Consider Tahajud / quiet last-third-of-night time
  • Reduce phone stimulation; use calm morning/night windows for insights

• For women’s sensory practice

  • Repeat simple sensory tasks (folding, washing, water/soap repetition) for nervous-system stabilization

• For prayer/body connection (Muslims)

  • Use prayer + prostration as somatic regulation
  • Start with body-mind connection routines when beginning worship

Presenters / sources mentioned

• Raden Prishaya / Mbak Pi (resource person; practitioner; founded MindRevive Indonesia / mindrevive.id)
• Ms. Sabrina (host of Boss Mama podcast)
• Boss Mama podcast
• Prof. Gabor Maté (mentioned as discussing somatic themes)
• Eugene Gendlin (Carl Rogers’ psychotherapy teacher lineage; relationship focusing; mentioned)
• Carl Rogers (mentioned as Western psychotherapy foundation)
• UGM research (referenced; 2026)
• Tony Robbins (workshop story mentioned)
• Mas Riza Putranto (mentioned as having content referenced)
• Prophet Muhammad ﷺ / Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam (examples used: fasting before Maghrib, Tahajud, prayer timing)
• Quran / Hadith (last third of the night / heart hadith referenced)