How To Read People Using Science

Main ideas / lessons

• Reading people well is partly a skill you may have had as a baby. Before we learn to talk, babies rely more on non-verbal and paraverbal cues than adults do.
• The video frames emotional and social understanding as coming from a communication formula (the “Morabian communication formula”). Emotions are conveyed through:
  1. Non-verbal communication
  2. Paraverbal communication (how something is said)
  3. Verbal communication (the actual words and sentence patterns)

Method: how to read someone using “science” (as presented)

1) Non-verbal communication (body language)

Focus on three areas: legs, hands, face.

Legs

• Distance between legs
  • Bigger distance → typically suggests more comfort with the person (up to a limit).
• Direction of feet
  • People often point their feet toward what/whom they like.
• Position of heels
  • Slightly lifted heels → can indicate nervousness.

Hands

• The video warns against relying only on generic “tells” (e.g., crossed arms, cracking knuckles, clenched fists) and instead suggests watching more specific hand details:
  • Direction of palms
    • Based on evolutionary psychology: showing/exposing palms suggests the person is comfortable and honest.
  • Hands in rapport with you (poker analogy)
    • People tend to keep hands near what they like.
    • They tend to keep hands away when they don’t.
  • Specific examples during interaction
    • Touching forehead → can indicate anxiety.
    • Touching lips → may indicate attraction.

Face

• Chin position + forehead smoothness
  • Chin further out and smooth forehead → suggests liking and comfort.
  • Chin tucked with a furrowed forehead → suggests discomfort or stress.
• Eyes (important, but “difficult”)
  • The video includes example “emotion reads,” such as interpretations of decisive, desire, and concern.
  • Structured eye cues:
    • Narrowed eyes
      • Can mean anger, suspicion, or concern
      • In some cases, could also indicate concentration
    • Widened eyes
      • Can indicate surprise, alertness, or fear
    • Wrinkles around the eyes
      • Indicate true happiness when you see the person
    • Closed-set eyes
      • Example given: Marilyn Monroe
      • Defined as eyes half-closed while maintaining eye contact
      • Typically interpreted as desire and interest
      • The video says it can be unconscious for some and sometimes deliberate for a seductive effect
• Eye direction
  • References Richard Bandler and Jean Grinder (N.L.P. / “neural linguistic programming”) linking eye direction with honesty/intent.
  • Later claim (attributed to a 2021 The Atlantic point):
    • People can detect lies better from audio alone than from video or text.

2) Paraverbal communication (voice cues)

Look for three things:

• Pitch
  • Cites a study in Evolution and Human Behavior:
    • Women raise pitch when attracted
    • Men lower pitch when attracted
• Elongated words
  • Examples include saying “really” as an elongated version (and similar phrasing like “no way”).
  • Interpreted as a sign the person is into you (also noted in texting).
• Micro-pauses
  • Pausing mid-sentence and changing pacing can mean:
    • thinking
    • lying
    • emotional conflict
  • If the person is opening up but then pulls back due to fear of judgment:
    • Encourage them to continue to build connection.

3) Verbal communication (what they say)

The video gives social/linguistic indicators such as:

• Tag questions
  • Examples: “isn’t it” or “right”
  • Why it matters (per video): if someone likes you, they may use tag questions to confirm shared values.
• Fight for airtime phenomenon
  • They may:
    • finish your sentences
    • jump in with agreement (e.g., “Yeah, exactly”)
  • Practical note: to avoid awkwardness while letting them finish your sentences, you need a way to avoid awkward silence (the video references another resource).

Sources / speakers mentioned (and “who is featured”)

• “Morabian communication formula” (named framework; speaker not identified)
• Richard Bandler (mentioned in connection with NLP—likely referencing Richard Bandler / Bandler in an NLP context)
• Jean Grinder (mentioned alongside Bandler)
• The Atlantic (publication discussing a 2021 study)
• Marilyn Monroe (used as an example of “closed set eyes”)
• A study in “Evolution and Human Behavior” (mentioned; no specific author named)
• The video narrator/speaker (not named; referenced only via direct instruction like “I’ve spent… researching,” “Number one…,” etc.)

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