Play Broke When Dating Modern Women Or Don’t Date Them At All

Core Argument

1Deep215 argues that men should keep early dates modest rather than spending heavily to impress someone they have just met. He calls this “pretending to be poor,” but means keeping things low-key—not pretending to be homeless or changing your lifestyle.

Main Advice

• Suggest a simple plan, such as coffee, a slice of pizza, or a casual meal, and choose the venue yourself.
• Treat a first date as a chance to get to know each other, not as a luxury showcase or a way to buy someone’s interest.
• Don’t assume someone is genuinely interested just because they agreed to go out. The speaker believes some people may mainly enjoy the outing or the chance to dress up or post about it.
• Avoid spending $200–$400 on someone you barely know. In the speaker’s view, a modest date can help reveal whether they value your company rather than an expensive venue, while saving time, money, and energy.
• If someone insists on an expensive date or belittles a modest suggestion, don’t argue or try to win them over; move on.
• Be yourself and look for compatibility instead of trying to impress someone with money.
• Don’t treat dates as a calculated route to sex. Accept rejection and move on.

Caveat

These are the speaker’s opinions, including his broad claims about women’s motivations. He says his advice is intended to help filter for compatible partners, not to treat every woman the same way.

Notable References

Applebee’s, TGI Fridays, Cheesecake Factory, Miami’s South Beach, dating apps, and Instagram.