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Seminario 2 Comunicación | Guías Mayores

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness / self-care & communication strategies (from the subtitles)

  • Prioritize active listening (on purpose)

    • Focus on feelings first, then process the information.
    • Don’t “tune out” or decide until you’ve heard all relevant details.

  • Recognize common ineffective listening styles

    • Bored listener: feels “I’ve heard it all before” and rejects the rest.
    • Selective listener: only pays attention to parts that interest them; ignores the rest.
    • Defensive listener: twists what’s said and treats it as a personal attack.
    • Interrupting listener: formulates their reply instead of understanding; interrupts with lines like:
      • “That reminds me…”
      • “That’s nothing—wait till you hear what happened to me…”

  • Use effective listening methods to “change your listening style”

    1. Pay attention to body language

      • Watch facial expressions, gestures, posture, hand movement, and fidgeting.
      • In therapy contexts: keeping the camera on (showing the upper body) supports reading nonverbal cues, tone, and facial expression.

    2. “Open doors” with invitations to share

      • Ask prompts that encourage deeper storytelling, like:
        • “Tell me more”
        • “Tell me the whole story”
        • “Do you want to talk about that?”
        • “Is that important to you?”
        • “What makes you feel?”

    3. Open/hold full attention to avoid disconnect

      • Sit attentively and block distractions.
      • If distracted: turn off your phone or set it to vibrate.
      • Choose a low-distraction environment when possible.

    4. Show interest appropriately

      • Use eyebrows/raised eyebrows and smiling/laughing when suitable—not just to be polite, but because you truly understand.
      • Use phrases that signal understanding and engagement.

    5. Practice “empathic imagination”

      • When listening, imagine the person’s story: how they experience their problem, including tone of voice and nonverbal expressions.
      • This builds genuine connection and helps you respond more appropriately.

    6. Manage when you need to stop listening

      • If you want to pause, listen a bit longer (e.g., “30 more seconds”), then ask respectfully to stop (e.g., call coming, need to leave).
      • If they keep going, use a tactful interruption like:
        • “You’re right, in my opinion”
        • “I’ve been in a situation like the one you’re describing”

    7. Self-focus for improvement

      • Don’t fixate on what the other person is doing wrong.
      • Focus on your own growth:
        • How much you used active listening
        • How well you went beyond words
        • How much you empathized by imagining their experience

  • Mindset / reminder

    • Becoming a better listener is a two-step process:
      • Identify your shortcomings
      • Correct/improve them
    • Good communication supports relationships across areas of life (personal, family, social, romantic, and even spiritual/religious connection).

Presenters / sources

  • No specific person’s name or external source is mentioned in the subtitles. The speaker refers to themselves as a psychologist/therapist, but without a named presenter.

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