OSHO: ईर्ष्या - प्रेम का अभाव Eershya - Prem Ka Abhaav

Key wellness / self-care / relationship insights (from the talk)

• Jealousy is a clear sign love is missing

  • If jealousy exists in “love,” then what’s happening is not real love—it’s another disease masquerading as love.
  • Proof of love: the disappearance of jealousy.
  • Metaphor: Jealousy = darkness, love = light.

• Stop “using” people; treat each person as sacred

  • The greatest harm is utilizing someone for your own work/benefit, even accidentally.
  • Each person is described as divine, not an instrument.
  • Healthy alternative:
    • Be of use to others if it’s genuine
    • But never use them for your own gains
  • Real love is reframed as service rather than exploitation or ownership.

• Love = surrender, not ownership

  • Real love removes the fear behind attachment.
  • Owning/controlling the other (e.g., fearing they’ll look at someone else) blocks love and blocks seeing the divine in each other.

• Fear cannot coexist with love

  • If your relationship is driven by fear (e.g., “What if my partner looks at others?”), then love hasn’t happened.
  • When love is present:
    • Trust replaces fear
    • Even if the partner looks elsewhere, no inner collapse occurs
    • Each person becomes a reflection/reminder of the “you” within (divine awareness).

• Call out the self-deception: we often label jealousy as love

  • People are described as “skilled” at:
    • hiding corruption with fragrance
    • placing flowers over wounds
    • turning lies into truth
  • So jealousy/hate/transaction is often renamed as love.

• Love’s “flowers” must bloom: trust, reverence, faith

  • Love requires:
    • Trust
    • Reverence
    • Belief/Faith
    • Faithfulness
  • Without these, what you think is love is actually hatred (jealousy, resentment, animosity).

• A relationship built on a “framework” is not the doorway to the divine

  • The talk suggests that many people call it love to hold a stability structure (home, money, security).
  • But that approach can cause you to miss the divine, because love is presented as the only doorway to meet it.

• Until love flowers, you’ll remain restless and dissatisfied

  • The talk frames life as miserable and unpeaceful until love becomes real and fragrant (“flowers bloom”).
  • It also implies a developmental path:
    • Love → Prayer → Divine (three steps of the same temple)

• Humorous parable used to illustrate “love as guarding” vs trust

  • The story suggests that when love becomes possessive/guarding, people misread signals and escalate.
  • Lesson emphasized afterward: Guarding each other = animosity, while trust = love.

Presenters / sources

• Presenter: OSHO
• Video source excerpted from: “Jagat Taraiyya Bhor Ki #10”