How to deal with Traumas

Key wellness + self-care strategies for dealing with trauma

1) Acknowledge trauma as real (don’t gaslight yourself)

• Validate that traumatic experiences have real impacts—especially from formative years.
• Avoid “it didn’t happen / it’s only in your head” narratives as a solution.
• The goal is acceptance + accurate understanding, not denial.

2) Address the root cause (remove/interrupt what’s continuing the harm)

• Identify the source of the trauma and stop it from repeating.
• Avoid quick fixes that don’t tackle the cause (e.g., escapism or surface-level “exposure” without root change).
• Practical examples mentioned:
  • If trauma is tied to anxiety/trauma loops, don’t assume “just more exposure” will solve it—address the underlying cause first.
  • If trauma is tied to a specific environment or person:
    • Cut ties with abusive/toxic friends.
    • Move out if it’s an abusive family environment.
    • Find a job to gain independence and reduce control from harmful people.
    • If a life situation stems from a specific failure/obstacle (e.g., an exam/licensing issue), evaluate why and correct the driver of the outcome.

3) Avoid dangerous coping/escapism

• Don’t rely on:
  • Drugs and alcohol to cope with trauma.
  • “Dropping out” of society as a default response.
• Nutrition and exercise were framed as mood-support tools (not a cure for trauma):
  • Reduce processed foods/sugar to support mood.
  • Gym/exercise can improve mood and provide structure, routine, and discipline.

4) Reduce rumination by “not taking yourself seriously”

• Stop the “time capsule effect” (replaying old rejections, insults, bullying, or family events repeatedly).
• Remember: people you’re stuck on often don’t think about it anymore—your mind is keeping it alive.
• Realistic ways to respond to overthinking:
  • Take yourself less seriously (mindset shift).
  • Recognize that much of life is influenced by factors outside your control (the speaker mentions “genetic determinism”/low control).
  • Use a “let it be / it is what it is” approach to prevent mental escalation.

5) Change your environment and prevent re-exposure

• “Stop the bleeding” by changing surroundings so you’re not repeatedly triggered by reminders of what hurt you.
• Remove yourself from environments/people that keep reactivating the trauma.

6) Stay busy to rebuild motivation and structure

• Keep yourself occupied to reduce time spent ruminating.
• A job was suggested because it adds daily structure (even though money isn’t portrayed as a complete solution).
• If hobbies work for you:
  • Track progress for self-esteem and momentum.

7) Cautious view on therapy/medication (personal stance)

• The speaker claims they refuse therapy, describing it as potentially scripted/insincere in their experience (not presented as universal truth).
• Medication (SSRIs) is mentioned with nuance:
  • It may help in extreme situations, but the speaker worries it could numb rather than fix root problems.
• Overall emphasis remains on addressing the cause and behavior change rather than “cookie-cutter” treatment.

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“Stop taking yourself seriously” + “keep yourself busy” (repeated emphasis)

• These are framed as major levers for moving past trauma-driven rumination and overthinking.
• The speaker argues confidence is often a result of action/credentials rather than the starting point (context references “looks/geomaxxing,” gym, etc.).

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Presenters / sources mentioned in the subtitles

• Alfred Adler (referred to as “Alfred Edler,” with criticism for framing trauma as nonexistent/only interpretation)
• “Dr. K” (linked to the “it’s in your head / choose to see it that way” idea)
• SSRIs (class of medication; no specific prescribing source named)
• FDA (mentioned in context of drug approval)
• Frank Tofano (mentioned in connection with surgeries/risks; no further sourcing given)
• “Manosphere” (mentioned as a community giving advice the speaker disagrees with)