I Found the BANNED Chapter of "How To Win Friends and Influence People"

Overview of the Video’s Claim

The video argues that Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People once contained a fifth section that was later “banned” or heavily redacted—and that this missing part is difficult to find online.

The presenter claims the disappearance wasn’t only normal publishing history, but deliberate suppression, allegedly tied to Dorothy Carnegie (Carnegie’s wife) rewriting parts of the book after Carnegie’s death (the video says this was in 1981). The alleged rewrites removed material the video describes as too controversial to handle publicly, particularly around socially taboo topics.

Key Points and Arguments

1) The Alleged Erased Chapter

• The book is commonly found as four sections, but the presenter claims Carnegie originally wrote five.
• The fifth section is described as effectively “scrubbed” from libraries and mainstream discussion.

2) Why the Video Says It Was Removed

According to the video, the missing section contained material considered taboo for the era—especially:

• Sexual content
• Frank discussion of marriage problems

The video suggests it was removed because the content could damage reputations and social standing.

3) What the Video Says the Missing Chapter Contained

The presenter frames the alleged missing material as a shift from general social advice into sharper critiques of marriage and intimacy, including:

• Gender-and-marriage observations
  • The presenter notes some norms are outdated by modern standards, but argues some underlying advice can still be broadly useful.
• Marriage lessons through historical figures and anecdotes
  • Focused on conflict, respect, and small daily behaviors that sustain relationships.
• A claim about marital unhappiness
  • The video reports it argues the leading cause of marital dissatisfaction is an unhappy sex life.
• End-of-chapter questions
  • Allegedly designed to test whether spouses are treating each other well.

4) Counterclaim: Contradiction of Carnegie’s Core Message

The presenter argues the redaction undermines Carnegie’s broader intent—namely:

• Be honest
• Treat others with dignity
• Don’t conceal truth

5) Practical Takeaways the Video Draws (Beyond the “Banned Chapter”)

Even aside from the alleged missing section, the video promotes several relationship and social principles:

• Don’t treat spouses worse than strangers (courtesy and respect matter)
• Marriage improves through tiny, consistent gestures, not dramatic fixes
• Compliments and respect increase the chance a spouse will respond positively
• Sex/intimacy is framed as central to long-term marital satisfaction

Pivot Into Social Confidence and Persuasion

After discussing the “redacted chapter,” the video transitions into charisma/likability advice drawn from other creators and experiments, including:

• Confidence as action before feeling
  • Confidence is said to come from behavior and risk-taking, not first from mood.
• Warmth + competence
  • Charisma is presented as improvable and rooted in how people combine friendliness and skill.
• Repeated social tactics, such as:
  • Using names
  • Asking others about what they care about
  • Making conversation easier by offering topics
  • Building “warm relationships” by initiating interactions
• Persuasion/liking research references, including:
  • reciprocal liking
  • similarity
  • self-disclosure
  • structured questions

People and References Mentioned

Book-Related

• Dale Carnegie (author)
• Dorothy Carnegie (described as rewriting/redacting parts after his death)

Video Narrator/Presenter

• The video narrator/presenter (unnamed in the subtitles)

Additional Referenced Figures and Creators

• Rhett and Link (referenced via a parody/clip)
• Johnny Cash
• Oprah Winfrey
• Tony Robbins
• Ronald Reagan
• Lyndon B. Johnson
• Charles Manson (cited as a fan)
• Warren Buffett (cited as taking a seminar based on the book)
• Eliza Hamilton (referenced metaphorically)
• Charisma on Command (previous channel association; individual creator(s) not named in subtitles)

Research Reference

• Dr. Arthur Aaron (mentioned regarding a relationship study)

Historical Figures Mentioned (Alleged Examples)

• Abraham Lincoln
• Mary Todd Lincoln
• Benjamin Disraeli
• Henry James
• Elizabeth Barrett Browning
• Edna St. Vincent Millay
• Turgenev

Pop Culture Example

• Don Draper / Dick Whitman (Mad Men) (used as a confidence example)