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Enter Your Badass Era! - Verbal Tricks To Make Annoying People Feel Instant Regret | Evy Poumpouras

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness, self-care, and confidence strategies from the video

Build confidence with your inner voice (language)

  • Recognize that your internal dialogue can “project” confidence (or lack of it) before you speak.
  • Replace self-sabotaging labels with growth-focused language:
    • Swap “I’m lazy / stupid / dumb / done” with “I’m not there yet” or “I don’t know this yet, but I can learn.”
    • When you make mistakes, treat it as normal learning instead of proof you’re “not enough.”
  • “Invite” the negative voice in instead of fighting it:
    • If the thought is “you’re the only woman in the room,” reframe it to the real issue: “I need preparation / I have less experience—so I’ll learn.”

Shift from identity-based disadvantage to competence-based growth

  • Challenge self-fulfilling prophecies (e.g., performing worse because you remember you’re “a woman” in a male-coded space).
  • Focus on competence-building habits:
    • Confidence is treated as a skill, built through competence and repeated practice—not genetics.
    • “Competence equals confidence.”

Use limited cognitive load for emotional regulation & focus

  • Don’t spend energy validating worries that “mean nothing in the grand scheme.”
  • Direct focus toward what you can control:
    • Set clear goals.
    • Put energy into actions that move you toward the outcome.

Practice confidence through preparation + proactive planning

  • Over-prepare to reduce uncertainty and prevent freezing when it matters.
  • Treat preparation as a security mindset:
    • Be proactive before the event so you’re less reactive during.
    • Have contingencies for what to do if something goes wrong.

Create a “game plan” for low-confidence moments

  • If you mess up (public speaking / on camera / presenting):
    • Laugh it off and move on (“everyone else was holding their breath—now they can relax”).
    • Use self-humor to stop a confidence “plummet.”

Self-care routines for “showtime confidence”

  • Build a morning routine that supports your mindset:
    • Gym/workout + supportive media (podcasts) to get mentally strong.
    • Research and mental rehearsal before speaking/recording (extra prep time).
  • Confidence is also about self-respect/investment in yourself:
    • Time invested in grooming/dressing can boost confidence by signaling “I respect me.”

Use clothing and presentation as identity + emotion tools

  • Treat outfit as a “cape” that changes your state (power, sexiness, approachability).
  • Wear what helps you feel:
    • The video emphasizes boots/heels/dark tailored suits/pants as “power cues.”
  • Avoid getting trapped in appearance:
    • The goal is to use styling to support identity—not let it become your only identity.
    • Practice being flexible (e.g., no makeup on home days, working out without caring what you look like).

Evidence-based framing: write down proof of competence

  • Have people write out:
    • Accomplishments, overcame experiences, even trauma-related strengths.
  • Use that to counter “I have no confidence” thoughts with documented competence.

Presenters / sources

  • Evy Poumpouras (presenter)
  • Lisa / Lisa Bil(l)y (co-presenter; co-founder of Questioning)
  • Cassie Ho (guest mentioned on the show episode)
  • Emily (referenced as “my girl Emily”; appears to be a content/fitness source via website/social)

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