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Don't Be In A 'Talking Stage' With Girls (From Hamza's Texting Girls course)

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness/self-care & productivity takeaways (core advice from the module)

  • Avoid the “talking stage” (time-wasting texting)

    • Treat long back-and-forth texting as a “scam”: the longer the talking stage, the less likely you are to move toward meeting in person.
    • Best-case mindset: as soon as you start, you should be organizing to meet immediately (ideal: within hours).

  • Don’t become a “notification man”

    • The speaker warns against being the guy who keeps texting for weeks/months to “earn” replies.
    • Longer texting = you’re more likely to be just one of many options, not the person she chooses to meet.

  • Use texting only for a clear purpose: getting a real meet set

    • Texting should be used to set logistics (arrange meeting time/location), not to “increase attraction.”
    • Message volume should be capped:
      • Max ~5–10–20 messages total (after meeting a girl) to get the date arranged.
      • More than that starts decreasing attraction.

  • Mindset shift: attraction can’t be built through texting (and usually drops)

    • Main principle: “You can’t increase attraction through text; you can only lower it.”
    • The goal isn’t getting her to reply—it’s getting her to agree to meet in person.
    • Don’t get emotionally hooked by her replying; get excited only when real-world progress happens (meeting/sex), not when texting happens.

  • Reduce attachment while texting

    • The speaker recommends treating texting as temporary and not emotionally investing (even suggesting you shouldn’t memorize names while chatting).
    • This is framed as preventing “beta male” attachment patterns (falling for someone from texting).

Supporting ideas / examples used

  • “10 unopened Snapchats phenomenon”

    • Many girls are portrayed as having lots of unread messages from guys they don’t want—especially in long talking stages.
    • Long texting can make you one more message she never opens, rather than the guy she acts on.

  • Streaks as a trap

    • Daily Snapchat “streaks” are presented as irrelevant to actual meeting/sex, because she may still choose other men to meet.

Presenters or sources

  • Hamza — referenced as the course creator (Hamza’s Texting Girls course)

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