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HOW TO REALLY SUCCEED AT SPEED DATING EVENT // THE BEST QUESTIONS & TRICKS TO MASTER SPEED DATING

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness, self-care, and productivity strategies (Speed Dating success)

  • Internally prepare (mindset > external “makeover”)

    • Shift from focusing on appearance-only prep to building the right frame of mind.
    • Ask yourself what you want to bring to the experience: your intentions and emotional energy.

  • Manage anxious thoughts before they steer your behavior

    • Notice negative spirals like:
      • “It’ll be awkward”
      • “No one will like me”
      • “It’s a waste of time”
    • Replace them with a grounded intention: be friendly, engaged, and open to meeting people.

  • Protect confidence with a healthier perspective on rejection

    • Speed dating can feel like “Tinder”—not matching doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
    • Emphasize self-worth: if someone doesn’t click with you, it shouldn’t damage confidence or self-esteem.

  • Be present and proactive—don’t waste pre-event time

    • A common mistake is separating by gender at the bar and then socially disengaging.
    • Use body language and initiative to start small interactions (e.g., greeting someone instead of standing/surfing your phone).
    • Avoid treating it like an isolated waiting room—treat it like an opportunity.

  • Don’t default to low-effort “job interview” small talk

    • Assume the other person is also nervous and trying to impress you.
    • Don’t let discomfort turn into negativity—stay curious and adjust your approach.

  • Use better questions to “evoke emotion” (fast connection hack)

    • Instead of generic questions that lead to safe, forgettable answers, ask questions designed to produce excitement, humor, and feeling—creating a more memorable tone.

Examples:

- Instead of: “Where are you from?” / “Do you travel?”
    - Ask: **“What’s the most exciting place you’ve ever visited?”**
- Instead of: “What do you do for a living?”
    - Ask: **“What’s been the best thing about your week so far?”**
    - or **“What’s been the best thing about your day so far?”**
- Instead of: “Do you have any hobbies?”
    - Ask: **“What’s the passion project you’re working on right now?”**
  • Reframe your experience as a “game”
    • If it feels stressful or awkward, “play the game” by knowing how to engage effectively—turning nerves into playfulness.

Tip: Treat the experience as something you can actively participate in, not something you just endure.

Biggest presenters/sources

  • Ieva (creator and presenter of the video)

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