I'm a 6/10. Here's How I Text Girls...

A Staged Approach to Texting

The presenter offers a step-by-step approach to moving from starting a conversation to asking someone on a date. The advice is framed as drawing on psychology and biology, though no specific studies are identified.

Choose an Opener That Fits the Situation

• Someone from Instagram: Reply to a story with a relevant comment rather than sending a generic “Hi.”
• A classmate: Ask about homework or notes, then use school as a shared topic.
• Someone in your friend group: Ask what she plans to wear to a meetup and, if appropriate, compliment her outfit.

Pay Attention to Her Level of Engagement

Continue the conversation and notice whether she replies, how quickly she responds, and how much she contributes. The presenter recommends backing off if she leaves you on read or consistently gives cold, delayed replies.

Make the Conversation More Engaging

• Give specific answers instead of closed responses like “I’m fine,” and add details that make it easy to continue chatting.
• If she gives a short reply, introduce a related question or topic.
• Use playful cliffhangers to encourage an in-person follow-up.
• Add some expressiveness with punctuation, elongated words, or emojis, without overusing them.
• The presenter also suggests waiting before sending a prepared message so the other person sees the typing indicator, which is presented as a way to build anticipation.

Avoid Becoming Overly Needy

The presenter warns against making one person the center of your attention or constantly initiating, while also cautioning against letting the conversation stagnate.

Make Room for Emotional Conversation

The presenter suggests that evening may be a better time for deeper conversations. If she shares something difficult, respond with empathy. One example is saying you would hug her if you were there.

Ask for a Date Directly but Naturally

First mention activities you would like to do, see which one interests her, and then invite her along. The presenter calls this sequence “qualifying, confirming, and closing.”

Presenter and Sources

The presenter is unnamed, and the video is from Zoomology. The presenter refers generally to social psychology, biology, and unspecified studies, and uses Napoleon Bonaparte’s letters as an anecdote.