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Why I Never Shared These 12 Rules Before

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness / self-care / productivity & leadership strategies (the “12 rules” themes)

Account for luck and survivorship bias

  • Don’t assume a strategy works just because you hear about successful people/studios.
  • Luck is real; you can’t fully control outcomes.
  • Instead of ignoring luck, plan to take advantage of good luck and mitigate bad luck.

Say “yes” more to opportunities (with awareness of tradeoffs)

  • When opportunities appear, say yes unless there’s a strong reason to refuse.
  • Expect that saying yes can sometimes mean taking on more than you can handle—or being taken advantage of.
  • The upside: it can create momentum, access, growth, and advancement.

Replace excuses with “reasons”

  • Understand why something happened (“reasons”), then fix the problem.
  • Treat understanding as a starting point for change:
    • Put structures/processes in place to prevent recurrence.
    • Work differently to avoid the same failure mode.
  • Excuses let problems persist; reasons drive action.

When things go wrong: work the problem

  • Avoid wallowing, blaming, or abandoning the field.
  • Focus on:
    • What’s broken
    • How to fix it
    • Whether you need to back up and take a different path
  • Reduce time spent marinating in failure; move toward “where we are → where we need to be.”

Focus on strengths—but cover weaknesses to a minimum acceptable level

  • Amplify what you’re already good at (often more enjoyable and yields bigger gains).
  • If you can’t fix a weakness, mitigate with other people (e.g., hire a specialist).
  • For weaknesses that would become destructive, improve until they’re not damaging (e.g., emotional control at least to “don’t harm others”).

Be cautious of “overly certain” people

  • Distrust people who offer a single answer for everything.
  • Overconfidence can be more about certainty-of-solution than actual knowledge.

Decide late enough to be informed, but not so late it’s too late

  • Make decisions at the latest reasonable moment, then act.
  • Waiting too long can become an excuse.
  • Use an iterative cycle:
    • Decide → act → react → decide again
  • Accept that plans are rarely perfect; acting with imperfect information helps you learn faster.

“Get mad on purpose” (emotional self-control as a leadership tool)

  • Emotions/outbursts are tools—use them intentionally.
  • Don’t let emotional expression run the show.
  • Use anger or enthusiasm when it motivates and drives action.
  • Avoid two extremes:
    • Uncontrolled emotional outbursts
    • Suppressing emotions so they become unusable (“idle tool”)

Share more information than you feel comfortable with (within limits)

  • Leaders hoarding information creates unnecessary problems and limits team problem-solving.
  • Teams/players can handle more than you think.
  • If you must disclose hard information:
    • Release it on your terms for more context and better timing
    • Reduce the chance it leaks out at the worst moment

Practice punctuality as respect + team culture

  • Start meetings on time and respect others’ time.
  • Being late signals disrespect, especially in larger groups.
  • Leaders set the tone: punctuality communicates equal value of everyone’s time.

Presenters / sources mentioned

  • Ray Muzyka (mentorship anecdote)
  • Jordan Peterson (referenced as an influence/framework, with “complicated thoughts” noted)
  • EA (Executive Leader Training at Electronic Arts)
  • Valve (studio example referenced in leadership discussion)
  • BioWare (career / leadership context; also referenced as hiring example)
  • IBM (alternate job offer mentioned)
  • Sekura Software (company where internship occurred)
  • Sonic Chronicles (role change / internal hiring example)
  • Patreon (channel support platform mentioned)
  • Discord (community platform mentioned)

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