Summary of make them obsessed with you using psychology.

Key Strategies and Tips:

• Marilyn Monroe Effect: Embrace an alter ego that embodies the traits you want to project. Write a detailed list of how you want to be perceived by others.
• Self-Obsession: Cultivate self-love and confidence. You cannot expect others to be obsessed with you if you do not feel that way about yourself.
• Understanding Chemistry: Recognize the different chemicals involved in attraction for men (testosterone and vasopressin) and women (dopamine and oxytocin). This understanding can help navigate romantic dynamics.
• Avoid Settling: Do not convince yourself that a relationship is okay if it doesn't feel right, especially early on. Be aware that you are meeting someone's representative, not their true self.
• Authenticity: Stay true to yourself and avoid inauthentic behaviors. Authenticity is crucial for lasting connections.
• Art of Seduction: Identify your personal "Art of Seduction" archetype. Understanding your strengths can help you attract others more effectively.
• Seduction Techniques:
  • Know Your Worth: Do not prove yourself to someone who hasn't proven themselves to you.
  • Eye Contact: Use eye contact to create a connection without overdoing it.
  • Be Playful: Maintain a positive and fun demeanor when interacting.
  • Create Small Challenges: Present minor problems for them to solve, showcasing their interest through actions.
  • Space and Absence: Allow space in relationships to create a sense of longing and interest.
  • Compliments: Offer genuine compliments, especially since many men may not receive them often.
• Self-Care and Hobbies: Engage in activities and hobbies outside of romantic interests to maintain a healthy balance and self-fulfillment.

Conclusion:

Natalie emphasizes that to make someone obsessed with you, you must first be obsessed with becoming the best version of yourself. This involves stepping out of your comfort zone while remaining authentic.

Presenters/Sources:

• Natalie (host of the Improvement for in podcast)

Notable Quotes

— 00:10 — « True obsession with who you really are, that's witchcraft. It's like a spell you are placing someone under. »

— 02:00 — « You cannot regard yourself as just normal you; you need to regard yourself as the you you want them to be obsessed with. »

— 05:00 — « When someone falls in love with the idea of you, the mask is going to slip at some point. »

— 11:28 — « The more you work on the inner beauty that's within yourself, the more it shines within your outer beauty too. »

— 11:55 — « If they don't really think about you when you're away, that is a bad sign. »

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

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