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This 1 Move Will Make Women LUST After You | The 80/20 Technique

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness / self-care / productivity-style strategies (from the subtitles)

1) Use the “80/20” attraction rule (conversation style)

  • Aim for 80% fun + playful + teasing in early interactions.
  • Keep only 20% focused on logical “getting to know you” facts.
  • Avoid dull Q&A like:
    • “What do you do?”
    • “Where are you from?”
    • “What are your hobbies?”
  • Practice playful, slightly absurd responses to her questions early on (e.g., exaggerated jokes or fun alternatives).
  • Respond playfully to her answers to keep momentum (instead of instantly going logical).

Goal: Make the interaction exciting so she thinks about you and wants to see you again.

2) Transition from flirting to deeper connection (emotional intelligence)

  • Don’t stay only in playful banter—move toward values, feelings, motivations.
  • Suggested date pacing:
    • First 2–3 dates: 60% fun / 40% meaningful

Three “deeper conversation” tactics:

  • Ask “why” questions
    • Example idea: “Why Italy?” “What made you choose Pilates?”
  • Ask “how did that make you feel?”
    • Probe emotions behind events/stories.
  • Go first
    • Lead with your own feelings/vulnerabilities before asking hers.
    • Share brief, honest vulnerability.
    • Share real experiences (even painful ones) without dwelling on negativity.

Goal: Create a “safe space” through authenticity so both people drop their masks and become more emotionally invested.

3) Slow things down to maintain value (attention management)

  • When she’s highly engaged, don’t mirror her availability automatically.
  • Avoid “going with the flow” (constant texting back, always available, instant plans).

Use this mindset:

  • Less is more
  • Slow is better

Concrete behaviors:

  • Don’t feel obligated to text back immediately.
  • If she wants to meet tomorrow, it can be sexier to say no and offer another time.
  • Make her wait a bit so she has time to miss/crave your presence.

Core rationale: over-availability can make you seem less valuable and reduce her desire.

Goal: Preserve your “specialness,” increase respect/value, and deepen her attachment.

Presenters / sources

  • Marne (host; stated in the subtitles: “I’m Marne”)

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