Ser Raro Não É Sumir. É Isso Aqui. Maquiavel X Estoicismo

Key wellness / self-care + productivity takeaways (via self-management mindset)

• Treat your attention and time as “rare value,” not an always-available resource

  • The video contrasts water (essential, abundant, low perceived value) vs diamond (rare, high perceived value).
  • Your presence/energy becomes “diamond-like” when it’s not instantly accessible to everyone.

• Use the “velvet rope effect” (set criteria instead of trying to impress)

  • Exclusivity/thresholds create clarity: people value what has recognized standards.
  • Instead of withholding for ego, the “barrier” signals that there are criteria for access to your time.

• Watch out for “too available” as a hidden form of fear

  • Over-availability often comes from:
    • Fear of exclusion
    • Fear of not belonging
  • That fear can lead you to:
    • Accept invitations you don’t actually want
    • Swallow opinions you already know are correct
    • Become a reflection of others instead of acting from your own judgment

• Apply Stoic internal control: separate what happens from your judgment

  • Rejection is beyond your control.
  • What you can control is how you respond to fear of rejection/exclusion.

• Combine Machiavelli + Stoicism to avoid “performance under pressure”

  • Machiavelli side: manage how the world/others perceive your value (criteria, boundaries).
  • Stoicism side: maintain your internal stability regardless of external outcomes.
  • Without internal steadiness, it becomes performance—and performance doesn’t hold up under pressure.

• “Be rare” doesn’t mean disappearing or pretending

  • It means:
    • Having criteria
    • Sustaining those criteria from within (self-trust + consistency)

Presenters / sources

• Epictetus
  • Quote: “It’s not the events that disturb you, it’s the judgment you make about them…”
• Niccolò Machiavelli
  • Referenced: “500 years ago”