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Lesson 28. The month of Elul. Hashem Melech

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Wellness / Self-care / Productivity Takeaways

1) Medical check first; then emotional work

The discussion emphasizes a two-step approach to health and pain:

  • Rule out medical causes first (e.g., genetic predispositions, allergies, chemical triggers, disease).
  • If doctors find nothing (or symptoms remain unexplained), consider emotional or stress-related origins, especially for soft-tissue issues that “machines don’t show.”
  • Even when conditions are biochemical or genetic, emotional self-work can still reduce suffering and improve quality of life.

2) Reframe “judgment” as supportive fatherhood (reduce fear-based coping)

A spiritual-psychology reframe is offered around Rosh Hashanah / Elul:

  • Rosh Hashanah isn’t approached like self-attack (no “beating the chest,” no guilt-heavy self-rebuke).
  • Instead, practice openness: accept Hashem as King / Father—a form of care aimed at helping you have the best year, not punishment for punishment’s sake.
  • Fear leads to avoidance, defensiveness, and emotional closure; the goal is the opposite: be open so harmony can be created in you.

3) Core inner practice: “Hashem Melech” (integration + mapping resistance)

A guided technique is practiced in pairs:

  1. Relax the body fully (progressive muscle relaxation from feet → head).
  2. Focus on Hashem’s presence and love (“Hashem is right here right now”).
  3. Plant the phrase “Hashem Melik” throughout the body, then scan for:
    • Parts that welcome it
    • Parts that resist / reject it
  4. Identify the “block” location (example given: throat resistance).
  5. Ask the resistance to reveal its emotion and origin, and if needed:
    • do regression to earlier moments where the emotion began.
  6. Work is done in pairs:
    • One person is facilitator/therapist
    • The other is patient
    • After resolution, the next block may appear.

4) Therapeutic questioning method (used during sessions)

Practitioners are instructed to follow a standard inquiry flow:

  • Where is the resistance?
  • What emotion is there?
  • Why is it resisting Hashem Melik?
  • If the “block” doesn’t respond:
    • find what blocks you from hearing the block
  • If there’s fear or anger about outcomes, ask the resistant part:
    • what it needs immediately
    • what it fears will happen if it doesn’t get results
    • what the first step is

5) Use the “month of love” (Elul) as preparation to open trust

The group connects Elul to preparation for Rosh Hashanah:

  • Elul is described as a honeymoon month—a time to build trust, closeness, and openness.
  • The idea: love makes you receptive, which helps you receive judgment/judgment-as-caring harmoniously.

Session Examples (What People Reported)

  • A throat block was linked to an emotion; later the phrase felt like it moved through the body increasingly strongly (described as “louder…happy joyous shouting”).
  • Fear in the body (e.g., throat/neck/heaviness) resolved by asking the block what it’s protecting against and what instruction it wants.
  • Some participants used regression for:
    • childhood trauma
    • inherited/embodied fear
    • “survivor guilt / shame”
    • past-incarnation-style imagery (handled by asking clarifying questions like “is it me?”)

Presenters / Sources

  • Rabbi Meir (referenced as “Rabbi Mayor and Beth”)
  • Victoria (main facilitator/instructor; responsible for exercise/session logistics)
  • Hashem Melech (the practice/theme; “Hashem Melik” phrase used in-session)
  • Mishna / Torah law (cited as a source for interpretive guidance)
  • Book of Torah law (referenced in discussion)

Participants quoted during session debriefs (as listed): Angela, Sitlana/Lana, Alex, Beth, Ruth, Stella Leiv, Hana Bulkin, Irene, Mosha, Mark, Josh, Talia, Ela, Anna, Mayor.

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