Summary of The Shocking Effects of Silent Treatment on Avoidant Attachments

Key Effects of Silent Treatment on Avoidants:

Mixed Feelings:
Enjoyment of space but also missing the partner. Internal conflict leading to second-guessing decisions and eroding confidence.
Sense of Relief:
Avoidants may feel relieved by the distance created by the Silent Treatment, as it alleviates the stress of conflict. Relief stems from avoiding Emotional Confrontation rather than a lack of care for the partner.
Questioning and Regret:
As time passes, Avoidants may regret their decisions and question what could have been different. They often repress emotions to regain the initial sense of safety.
Increased Independence:
The Silent Treatment can lead to a heightened sense of Independence and Self-Reliance. Avoidants focus on self-sufficiency as a coping mechanism, feeling powerless in the relationship.
Attempts to Reconnect:
Eventually, Avoidants may seek to reconnect but do so in subtle ways, avoiding direct expressions of vulnerability. Their attempts might include indirect communication, such as sharing memes or lighthearted messages.

The video does not specify individual presenters or sources but discusses concepts related to Attachment Styles and Emotional Responses.

— 03:27 — « But for avoidants, it might actually be a welcome break. »

— 04:00 — « Rather, it's because it eases their fears and helps them avoid dealing with the conflict they're experiencing. »

— 04:30 — « It’s a mix of questioning and regret involving the situation, often with a bit of repression thrown in. »

— 05:43 — « Deep down, they have a strong sense of powerlessness. »

— 06:16 — « For avoidants, this can feel like a foreign language. »